5 New Year Resolutions for Singles

Yes I have used that much hated and abused word: Resolutions. Do I hear a collective symphony of groans? Who wants to be better versions of themselves?! Which *@%** came up with that idea? Why can’t we just slouch in our comfy tees and watch Korean drama all day and all night? We Can. You Can. If you gain nothing else from this article, at least walk away with a mantra right? Buuuut, you wouldn’t be here if all you’re looking for was a mantra. (Remember: We Can. You Can.) So…let’s work on those New Year resolutions for singles…

New Year Resolutions for Singles
  1. Love Yourself

I know right? So clichéd. I hate myself just for writing this. (oops.) But it’s true. If you look to someone else for validation in life, you’re putting yourself at a severe disadvantage. What happens when this relationship doesn’t work out? It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a partner or even a parent. No one can be there for you infinitely even if they want to be. The fact is relationships end and people die. The only one, who will be there for you your whole life, is YOU. So this is the most important relationship in your life and you have to make it work. You have to know when all else and everyone else fails, you will be there for yourself, you have the strength to carry on, you will love yourself, you will take care of yourself.

New Year Resolutions for Singles
  1. Make a Plan

But hey, after the self-love, it’s still nice to have a warm body next to you. So make a plan. Sit down with your friends and make a list of what you want in a partner. Then edit the list. Anything more than 10 items is unrealistic. Anything that makes your friends laugh or whoop or exclaim is unrealistic. Then use your list to make a plan to meet these people, whether it’s joining new classes, getting match-made by family and friends, or whacking potentials over their head and dragging them back to your cave. (You can tell when I’m Kidding right?)

New Year Resolutions for Singles
  1. Make a Backup Plan

Wanting to find love, if we’ve learnt nothing else, is not the same as finding love. So we need to work on the other relationships in our lives: our family and friends. There is nothing as glorious as posting on Facebook that you’re sick and in need of Vicks VapoRub, and actually having a friend deliver it. *True Story* Now that is love. So be sure to be good to these people in your life because when you don’t have a partner, these people are the closest ones you have. Love them like you want them to love you. Stock up on VapoRub.

New Year Resolutions for Singles
  1. Meet More People

Another mantra: Can’t Find Them if you Don’t Meet Them. Give me an award already. Two mantras in One article. That must be some kind of record. If you’re stuck in a routine taking the same route to work, going to the same gym, eating lunch at the same place, well, how’re you ever going to meet someone new? So this year, resolve to buy your morning coffee from a different joint, go to the gym at a different time, eat lunch somewhere else, and join a new class. What the hell, go wild, join Two New Classes.

New Year Resolutions for Singles
  1. Give People a Chance

It’s so easy to judge people. I know. I do it all the time. I haven’t even met you and I know…you’re judgemental. You have that look. Don’t dismiss someone just because they seem a certain way. It could be for a whole lot of reasons: it could be a bad day; she’s having cramps; he hasn’t had time to run to the toilet all day and now he’s having this first date with you. People get the jitters, people are weird when they’re uncomfortable but it’s not necessarily who they are. So give them a chance, a second date and see how it goes…because you know We Can. You Can.

New Year Resolutions for Singles


~ Li Ching (Who Loves Mantras)




BRING IT ON 2015!! 6 Lessons from 2014

2014 was quite a tumultuous year for me; I’m sure i’m not alone at this. I neglected myself totally, got my heart broken, tried to get in touch with a friend i haven’t spoken in ages only to find out he had passed from brain cancer a few weeks prior and of course, the ups and downs whilst working on Paktor. But amidst all this chaos, I found out how strong my support network was, how much my friends loved me and that if i kept believing in what Paktor was, somebody would take notice and believe in us.

As 2014 soon comes to a close, I have decided that I need to take myself the way I am, mould myself into what I want to be, and work on areas that I’m not happy with myself. Here are a few resolutions that I have put together for myself and hopefully you can find one or two that appeals to you.

  1. The Purge

The very first step is a huge spring clean. Nothing beats clearing out the old from your home. Start afresh! Rid all things that have been collecting dust, have no use and you have lost interest in. You need to rid the physical trash in your life first, as at the end of the day, you want to rest or work in a clean and healthy environment.


  1. Get back into shape

This is definitely one of my top priorities! In 2014, I ate unhealthily, gained 6kg and completely lazed myself away. Pick up a sport or join a gym. Fitness should always be a way of life. Getting into shape later won’t be easy. We are all in the prime of our lives so we should look like it!!

(After watching the Victoria’s Secret show, I was exclaiming to a close friend of mine that I was so inspired to workout harder to get a Victoria’s Secret Angel’s body.. his response to watching the Victoria’s Secret show was that it inspired him to get a girlfriend… @_@)


  1. Expand my social circle

Meet more people, go out and have fun! All work and no play makes anyone dull. It’s always good to meet more people. Especially for the single people out there, you never know who you’ll meet!


  1. Spend more time with my friends and those that matter

We always neglect this part when we’re in love or when we’re really caught up with work. These are actually the people that will help you fight your battles or come rushing to your aid when you call them at 3am in the morning. Spending time with them show that you care about them too!


  1. Believe more in myself

With Paktor, I did question myself sometimes if i was doing the right thing or if i was just chasing a pointless dream. But the funding by Vertex reassured me and made me think twice about all these doubts I had of my partners and myself. We all need to start believing that we can achieve great things in our lives. The world is always your oyster if you just believe!


  1. Leave the past in the past

Bad memories should be left behind and not always thought about. Yes, more than often we think about the what ifs or maybes; but what good will this do? What’s done is done. Let’s look forward and try not to repeat the actions that we have regretted. 


xx The Paktor Queen