4 Tips Aman Bermain Aplikasi Online Dating

internet_safetyAplikasi jenis online dating memang sedang merebak. Nggak ada salahnya untuk kita coba-coba. Siapa tahu beneran bisa ketemu jodoh. Nah, ini tips bagi kita yang penasaran sama aplikasi online dating, tapi takut kena penipuan.

1. Download Aplikasi yang Kredibel

Sebelum download aplikasi, coba iseng-iseng lihat review-nya di App Store atau Google Play. Download-lah aplikasi yang sudah terpercaya dan punya jam terbang yang cukup lama. Misalnya, aplikasi Paktor.

2. Hati-hati Mengisi Data Pribadi

Biasanya, aplikasi yang kredibel nggak akan meminta kita mengisi informasi yang terlalu mendetil seperti nomor telepon, nomor rekening ataupun nomor kartu kredit. Jadi kalau aplikasi yang kamu download meminta data tersebut, coba cek ulang.

3. Jangan Terburu-buru

Kalau sudah ketemu match yang asyik diajak ngobrol, jangan langsung buru-buru mengiyakan kalau si dia mengajak ketemuan. Coba selidiki dulu orang tersebut. Mulai stalking media sosialnya, stalking juga pergaulannya. Cari tahu pekerjaannya di mana, kuliahnya sampai sekolahnya.

4. Hati-hati Dalam Pembicaraan

Karena kita nggak bertemu muka dengan muka dengan match kita, kadang ngobrol pun jadi suka kebablasan karena terbawa nyaman. Hati-hati, ya. Jangan sampai kita mengumbar pembicaraan yang terlalu mendalam dan sensitif. Jangan pernah bertukar foto apalagi tanpa busana. Hiy! Satu lagi, jangan pernah mau meminjamkan uang sebelum kita benar-benar mengenal orang tersebut.

Kalau kita mengikuti 4 tips di atas, dijamin, bermain aplikasi online dating nggak lagi menyeramkan seperti yang kita bayangkan selama ini. Just stay safe and have fun. Selamat mencari jodohmu!

Jangan Malu Pakai Aplikasi Kencan Online, Ini Alasannya…


Dengan semakin canggihnya teknologi, makin banyak aplikasi yang memudahkan kita menjalani kehidupan. Salah satunya adalah jenis aplikasi kencan online. Hehehe.. Ngaku deh, siapa yang pernah coba download aplikasi kencan online? Pasti nggak banyak yang mau mengaku. Soalnya buat masyarakat Indonesia khususnya, hal ini masih dianggap tabu dan bikin penggunanya malu. Hm.. Padahal, sudah banyak yang berhasil bertemu pasangan hidupnya melalui aplikasi kencan online loh! Nih, alasan kamu nggak perlu malu kalau download dan main online dating apps.

  1. Iseng Berhadiah

Namanya juga iseng-iseng, nggak ada ruginya kok, download aplikasi kencan online. Selama kita menjadi pengguna yang pintar dan kita berhati-hati dengan semua informasi pribadi kita, nggak ada salahnya mencoba aplikasi jenis satu ini. Apalagi kalau umur kita memang sudah waktunya memiliki pacar. Siapa tahu kita bisa ketemu yang cocok dan pas dibawa ke jenjang hubungan berikutnya.

  1. Perbanyak Koneksi

Awalnya sih, memang berniat cari pacar. Tapi, nggak menutup kemungkinan kita bakal bertemu banyak teman-teman menyenangkan di aplikasi ini. Kalau memang nggak asik dijadikan pacar, mereka bisa dijadikan teman untuk memperluas koneksi. Banyak loh, keuntungan dari punya koneksi yang luas. Mulai dari peluang pekerjaan, sampai menambah banyak ilmu baru yang bisa kita dapatkan dari ngobrol dengan mereka. Seru, deh!

  1. Hemat Waktu dan Tenaga

Online dating apps ini memudahkan kita dalam mencari pacar karena kita nggak perlu menghabiskan waktu untuk offline dating. Cari waktu yang pas untuk jalan bareng, nonton bareng, duh, ngabisin waktu, deh! Mending kenalan dulu di online, kalau orangnya asik, baru kita atur waktu untuk ketemuan. Apalagi di online dating apps, kita bisa langsung kenalan dan ngobrol dengan beberapa orang. Tinggal pilih deh, mana yang asik diajak ngobrol dan berpotensi dijadikan pacar.

  1. Comfort Zone untuk Si Introvert

Nah, online dating apps cocok banget dipakai bagi para introvert. Soalnya, introvert biasanya kesulitan dalam memulai pembicaraan dengan orang baru. Dengan aplikasi jenis ini, para introvert bisa dengan bebas menjadi dirinya sendiri dan memulai percakapan tanpa harus takut ditolak. Ide yang baik, kan? Bahkan para ekstrovert juga suka kok, memakai aplikasi kencan online. So, jangan malu lagi ya mengakui kalau kita pengguna aplikasi kencan online. HIhihi..

How to get on THAT Popular list on Paktor

Time flies.

It seemed like only yesterday that Paktor was launched and now it’s been a whole year (and more!) Many of you have come and gone, swiped and chatted, matched and dated.


One of our more recently launched features was the Most Popular user list and many of you have been asking how you can get on them.

We decided to do a bit of homework for you guys and hunt down these popular hunks and babes to find out their secret sauce.

On top of that, we’ll throw in some advice so that YOU can rise to the top of the dating game as well.

Sounds like a good deal? Then read on my friend, read on.

Disclaimer: Names and real photos have been withheld to protect our hot users who are already swamped...But if you’re really curious, I suggest you download Paktor and start swiping.
Top Personalities

Top Female Users

  1. Miss Model-Aspirant

You can’t miss this one. Her photos look like glossy portfolio prints. Her flawless make-up can only be matched by her highlighted tresses and runway outfit. She looks so perfect you wouldn’t dare to swipe right on her photo without going for a professional makeover first.

Tope Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“I like visiting restaurants to try food I haven’t tried before…Cafes are nice too…We can chat and get to know each other better…I don’t really like alfresco dining, it’s too hot in Singapore! *laughs*

“No, I’m not really sporty…I’m more girly…I like shopping…Walking is also exercise right? Walking for a few hours can be very tiring!”

“No lah, I don’t take 2 hours to get ready to go out! Unless it’s a very special occasion.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Sometimes guys put very nice photos on the app but don’t bother to dress nicely when they show up for the date. It’s so weird! One guy showed up in slippers, and not the nice kind. He said it was okay for a café.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“You look like a model! *laughs*

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

No one turns into one of these babes overnight. I know. I tried. Nearly succumbed to a mascara stick stabbing. Instead, I suggest you work harder, make more money and hire a personal dresser.

And a professional photographer.



  1. Miss Natural Girl-Next-Door

She’s a direct contrast to Miss Model-Wannabe with little or no make-up and clearly enjoys being dressed in comfortable but still presentable attire. Her photos are not glamour shots and may in fact include actual activities where she sweats or gets dirty.

Top Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“I don’t mind trying different dates such as roller-blading at East Coast Park. I tried that once. It was quite fun although I probably fell more than I bladed! *laughs* I like a guy to be original and creative. But I like movies so although that’s a typical Singaporean date, I don’t mind.”

“I do like hawker food but maybe not for a first date. Too casual maybe? A date should be special, at least a little.”

“I like funny guys who make me laugh. Not that a guy shouldn’t be serious when it’s appropriate.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“It’s hard to tell anything about a person from just photos and a short description. You really don’t know what to expect. I can only look for someone who looks nice and friendly and pray I don’t meet a psycho.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:


What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Unfortunately, we are not all natural born beauties who can strut around without makeup. But guys do like girls with a bit of interest and character so it pays to explore new activities and keep an open mind. Don’t forget to take some photos while you’re at it too!

Alternatively, you can work harder, make more money and go to Korea to enhance your natural beauty.


  1. Miss Cutie-Pie

You’ll recognise her by her cutesy poses with at least one finger near her face. She looks like a Japanese doll and may be hugging a Hello Kitty soft toy. She’s so adorable you want to bring her home to show your mum but you wonder when she’ll grow up.

Top Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“I love soft toys! *laughs* I don’t know why but my friends love to buy me soft toys. That’s why I have so many. Of course I don’t buy all of them myself!”

“Selfies are great! I don’t have to wait for someone to take a photo for me. When I’m bored or waiting, I can take some for fun. My friends and I enjoy posting our selfies; it tells them what I’m doing at the moment too.”

“We don’t use the phone to talk. It‘s much faster to message but it can be distracting. Sometime I get hundreds of messages after I don’t check for a while. When I really need to work, I have to mute my messages.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Erm…okay lah, I think online dating’s fun. I usually get bored with the guy after chatting for a while. I don’t meet many of the guys. But it’s fun to swipe!”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“*laughs* Singaporeans don’t use pick-up lines lah! I can’t think of any!”

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Practice makes perfect. Try out your cutesy hand poses with your good friend, the mirror or a real friend who won’t laugh in your face. If it still doesn’t work out, hide behind a giant Hello Kitty soft toy and work its cutesy face to your advantage.




Top Male Users

  1. Mr Boy-Next-Door

This is by far the most common profile type on Paktor. There are a surprisingly large number of pleasant, earnest Singaporean guys who make the effort to post an informative range of photos that really gives you a glimpse into their lives and make you want to swipe right.

Top Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“I like friendly, laidback girls who are open to different things. Not too fussy type.”

“*laughs* Yah, I do like girls with long hair, pretty mah. But can have, can don’t have lah.”

“Coffee is very important! Cannot get through my day without it! *Laughs*

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“I don’t like people thinking that online dating is only for desperate people. Actually there’re a lot of nice people you can meet online. Most people are just too busy to meet anyone so online dating is really useful. You can chat whenever you’re free so it’s very convenient. You may not end up dating them but can still be friends.”

Best Pick-Up Line Lines Heard:


“Hey. Hi”

“Hi Hi”



Because girls don’t need no pick up line game.


What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Take an obsessive number of photos of you doing just about everything. Borrow a cute dog to pose with if possible. Exclude anything that occurs in a bathroom.

Pick a good female friend with excellent taste to help you select the best for your Paktor profile.


  1. Mr Sportsman 

I don’t think this guy even requires a description. Bare torso – Check! Six-pack – Check! Tank top – Check!

Top Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“I like to work out…it doesn’t mean my girlfriend has to be the same. But it would be nice to work out together.”

“Appearances are important of course. So is health. Keeping fit lets me do the other things I want…like eat *laughs*…I like to eat.”

“I like movies, not just action ones…comedies are good.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Girls who don’t reply! *Laughs* At least can be polite mah…”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“I heard you’re looking for me…I’m Mr Right. *laughs*

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Only aspire to be this guy if you can endure a wait of at least 6 months for a girlfriend. Meanwhile, expect to be eating very little and spending a lot of time and money in the gym. Your trainer will become your new best friend (it’s the least he can do since you’re paying for his new car).



  1. Mr Frequent Flyer

The guy who seems to plonk himself in the most exotic locations around the world. You can’t help but recognise the different iconic backdrops and secretly wish that he brings you along with him.

Top Personalities

Likes / Dislikes:

“Travelling really broadens your mind and changes the way you look at the world around you and your own life. I would love to meet someone who shares the same enthusiasm for experiencing different cultures.”

“Photos help me to remember places I’ve visited. The world is so big, if I don’t return to the same place, at least I have these photos to remember them by.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Nothing. Online dating is perfect for our world today. It allows you to reach out to anyone. No one has to be restricted by geographical divides.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“Sorry, I don’t use pick-up lines. They’re quite hard to pull off, aren’t they?”

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Find a new job that pays you to travel a lot for your work, or learn some advance photoshop module.

You could even travel to Jurassic park ;)





~ Li Ching (Who Now Feels Like Swiping Right)

Online Dating Tips for People who Love their Work

So I hear there are people who actually love their work. I know. It’s strange, exotic even, but apparently not an urban legend. Unlike you and I, these people do not try to stretch out their toilet / smoke / kopi breaks. Sometimes they’re so absorbed with work that they forget to eat (nature’s attempt to weed out the weak, no doubt). Usually they’re also too busy to date unless it’s via express dating methods such as online dating. We call these people Workaholics. And boy, do they need help. So here’s the Workaholic’s Guide to Online Dating.

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  1. Don’t Post a Photo of you at Work.

Being a workaholic is NOT a virtue. It means you have no time to date or remember her birthday or go off on holidays. So while you shouldn’t LIE on your profile, you can Withhold Your Deep Dark Secrets. For now. The truth will eventually come out but hopefully by then, you’ll have managed to snag her with your charm and good humour. Or money.

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  1. Tell People what you are Looking for.

Remember once upon a time…long, long ago…before you started work and became one of Them? Remember when you had hopes and dreams and interests in life that did not revolve around Work? Write about that in your profile and hopefully you’ll find someone with similar interests who could get you back on that wagon.

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  1. Don’t Kid Yourself; It is going to Take Time and Effort.

Yes you are a busy, busy person. If the world was perfect, you would date one person and she would be perfect and you would live happily ever after. Now come back down to earth and how about you get a good momentum going and arrange 5 dates for a start?

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  1. Use your Efficiency at Work while Dating

Time is precious, yours, mine, and everybody’s, so don’t waste any. If your date’s boring you to death or clearly repugnant to you in one way or another, move on. No need to pull a disappearing act. Say you have a 4am conference call / you have to monitor the U.S. stock market / you feel a massive diarrhoea episode coming from that gigantic burrito you ate and you really don’t want to gross her out. Oops.

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  1. No Shame in Taking a Break

There is a Chinese saying about how taking a break is important for allowing you to travel further. Be understanding towards yourself. Work is exhausting and dating is too. When they clash in horrible and terrifying ways, take a break, have a Kit Kat, and live to date another day.

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  1. Never Give Up

As with all things in life, perseverance is the most effective yet under-rated quality in dating. As an experienced fairy tale character once said, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.” So join Workaholics Anonymous if you need help but don’t stop dating till you’ve found The One.

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~ Li Ching (Who Loves Kit Kat)




The 8 Online Dating Profiles You’ll Never See IRL

Imagine a world where everyone posted honest online dating profiles. You will no longer have to psychoanalyse everything you read, wondering if “charming” means “ugly” and “well-read” means “never leaves the house”. Some say that would never work but I beg to differ.

In such a world, we simply adjust our selection process. Instead of looking for qualities we want, we sieve out the qualities we can live with. There will be no surprises except good ones. Imagine discovering one day that your pimply-faced, nerdy, agoraphobic boyfriend is super kind to kids and old people (never mind that he never actually steps out of the house to meet them).

Tempting, isn’t it? Here’s a look at some dating profiles from that mythical world…

Online Dating


The Super Lazy Type

  1. “Shocking that I even put up this profile. Looking for motherly types to cook, clean, and occasionally feed me. And the cat. Can’t type anymore. Must nap. Meow.”
Honest Online Dating Profiles

The Two-Timer 

  1. “Hi, the fact is, without meaning to be offensive, I’m actually seeing someone although we’re not anything like exclusive and it’s started to occur to me that we might not be exactly on the same page but you know how it is, no one really wants to be alone so I’m really hoping to find someone perfect out there before I move on.”
Honest Online Dating Profiles

The Settler 

  1. “Looking for someone with lower standards than mine.”
Honest Online Dating Profiles

 The Havoc One

  1. “Heyyy..I love parties! I love beer! I love music! I love wine! I love whiskey! Sometimes I end the night with my head in a toilet bowl but that never stops me! If you want an alcoholic to party with 7 nights a week (because unlike God, I don’t need a day off), call me!”
Honest Online Dating Profiles


The Emotionally Clingy

  1. “I will become emotionally attached if you so much as smile at me. So don’t. Unless you’re ready to move in and make babies today.” (Approaching 35 and so desperate.)
Honest Online Dating Profiles

The Good looking One 

  1. “I’m tall, dark and handsome. Women are always slipping me their phone numbers so I’m never short of dates but I just get sick of them so fast. If you don’t mind a brief fling with someone who loves himself more than you, I’m your guy.”
Honest Online Dating Profiles

 The Pseudo-Food Connoisseur 

  1. “I’m an excellent cook and I love to eat. I taste fruits at the supermarket, I never refuse a free sample, I eat what I cook, when I’m stressed, when I’m happy, when I’m nervous, sometimes even when I’m hungry. If you try to stop me, I will hurt you.”
Honest Online Dating Profiles



 The High Flyer

8.  “It’s important to be successful. I define success with a high-flying career, a six-figure salary, a convertible and a penthouse in the city. If you’re in my league, we should meet.”

Honest Online Dating Profiles


So that’s it! Do you think we missed out on any profiles? Share it with us and we might just feature them in our next article!


~ Li Ching (Who is Lazy But will Move for Food)




The Reality of Online Dating

People can be stubborn as mules. That’s why clichés exist. Once something sticks, it takes forever and a weekend to peel it off. Online dating is by now, practically as old as newspapers. Yet, every day, people are STILL asking: Does Online Dating Work? If you’re one of those mules who need some help peeling off the belief that dating can only happen in the bricks and mortar world, I hereby present to you, the unadulterated guide to: The Reality of Online Dating.

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Online Dating is Here to Stay

Short of computers taking over the world tomorrow and forcing all humans into fields to grow organic rice, we can pretty much assume the Internet and all its variations (yes I do mean social media) are here for the long haul. The fact is that the reality of the physical world as we know it is no longer the only reality. Once upon a time, the virtual world was an incidental intruder to be viewed with some suspicion. Now it is the intricate web that weaves all aspects of our lives together. There is no escaping it. We spend as much if not more time in the virtual world now than we do in the physical one. Certainly, I am sitting at my computer in my study but this physical environment is merely a canvas for the work I’m doing online.

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If a Person is Complex, Dating is Complex

100 years ago, arranged marriages that began without any of the modern elements of love as we define it now was widely accepted as the norm. Today, we demand a certain understanding derived through meaningful interaction before we succumb. To me, the main difference between dating online and offline is meeting a person’s mind or body first. But ideally, we should meet all aspects of a person. So does it really matter which comes first? Some might even argue that it is better to form a mental connection first since physicality is superficial.

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Like Physical Dating, Online Dating Takes Time & Effort

For online dating to be truly effective, you have to take it seriously. While you don’t need to spend hours getting dressed and made up, it does require the same attention you pay to a date sitting opposite you in a restaurant. So you can’t be twittering, texting your best friend, shopping on eBay, reading movie reviews AND chatting with your online date at the same time. Instead, FOCUS on your online date and realise that this is your one opportunity to really get to know this person and find out if there’s any chemistry. If you can’t be bothered to make this effort, you can hardly blame the medium for your inability to find love.

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The Realistic Conclusion

You can find true love in many places: sharing views in a book club, drinking in a pub, or chatting online. The advantage of dating online is that it may save you some time; you can pretty much participate at all hours; you can literally meet anyone from anywhere. It is by no means a flawless system but if you’re dedicated to finding love, it would be a terrible waste to let go of such a good avenue.

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~ Li Ching (Who Met True Love Online)