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房間擠了一大一小兩個行李箱,已經快沒有可以走動的區域了。我最後把一盒Andes雙薄荷巧克力與兩盒微熱山丘鳳梨酥塞進我的行李箱裡面,不曉得他會不會喜歡。時間過得好快,我跟他已經認識了超過半年了。

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Nắm bắt tâm lý các cô nàng

Mỗi mẫu phụ nữ đều có những đặc trưng khác nhau cũng giống như việc tuýp phụ nữ như thế nào thuộc hình mẫu lý tưởng của bạn vậy. Song nhiều lúc chúng ta bị thu hút một cách vô thức bởi những cô gái mà tưởng chừng như chính bản thân ta cũng không ngờ rằng mình lỡ yêu họ. Làm sao để chiếm lấy tình cảm của nàng thì hãy xem tâm lý của các nàng như thế nào đã nhé:

1. Cô nàng cá tính

Ca tinh

Sẽ không khó để bạn nhận diện một cô nàng cá tính. Hãy nhìn vào mái tóc không mấy cầu kì và bộ trang phục năng động của cô ấy. Nhưng có một điều hẳn sẽ khiến bạn không ngờ tới là muốn nắm bắt tâm lý của cô nàng thì bạn cần phải đối xử với nàng một cách nhẹ nhàng và ân cần.

Vì thường thì mọi người thường mặc định rằng những cô nàng cá tính thì mạnh mẽ, và họ có thể tự lo cho bản thân. Nên thực chất những cô nàng cá tính thường thiệt thòi hơn so với những cô gái có cá tính yếu đuối. Nhưng dù sao nàng cũng là phụ nữ, nên hãy đánh thức sự nữ tính tiềm ẩn trong họ. Đa phần những cô nàng cá tính sẽ yêu và chọn người đàn ông mà khi ở bên cạnh họ có cảm giác họ được yếu đuối.

2. Tiểu thư khó chiều

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Những cô nàng này khá là Drama, nàng nhẹ nhàng, mơ mộng và ngọt ngào. Nhưng tất cả những điều tốt đẹp đó của nàng không hẳn là lúc nào cũng phù hợp trong cái cuộc sống nhiều nỗi lo toan này. Ưu điểm cũng chính là khuyết điểm đó là lí do nàng sẽ bị thu hút bởi một anh chàng vừa phải hội tự đủ sự tinh tế để quan tâm đến những suy nghĩ cũng như hiểu được mức độ mong manh của nàng, thêm vào đó bạn phải là một chàng trai khá chững chạc để cô tiểu thư này có thể an tâm dựa vào.

3. Công chúa kiêu kì

Sanh dieu

Công chúa đỏng đảnh này khá là khó chiều, nàng ta sẽ chẳng nhẹ nhành dịu dành như tiểu thư đâu, lại còn thêm cái vẻ kiêu kì. Nhưng chính cái vẻ đỏng đảnh kiêu kì đó lại là sức hút kì lạ đối với phái mạnh. Khiến họ muốn chính phục vô cùng. Khi muốn một điều gì đó nàng không tỏ ra ngọt ngào và dịu dàng như cô nàng tiểu thư mà nàng sẽ tỏ thái độ khá “ đỏng đảnh”. Đại khái là “ Em muốn như thế và phải như thế…anh phải giúp em chứ…v..v…” hoặc đôi khi kiêu kì đến khó hiểu. Đa phần những cô nàng này khá xinh đẹp…vì như vậy họ mới có đủ tự tin để đỏng đảnh.

Nói chung bạn càng cố chiều theo nàng thì bạn càng không có được nàng. Nắm bắt tâm lý của công chúa đỏng đảnh thì bạn phải là chàng trai có lập trường nhất định, biết cân nhắc việc gì đúng và sai. Phân tích cho nàng hiểu vấn đề đúng sai như thế nào thì nàng sẽ cảm thấy bạn thật là bản lĩnh. Thương nàng nhưng chiều tùy việc…nếu chiều và nghe nàng răm ráp nàng càng không đánh giá cao bạn.

4. Quý cô khó tính

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Quý cô khó tính thường có suy nghĩ  “chững chạc” hơn tuổi. Nên những nhu cầu về mặt tâm lý của nàng cũng khá là tỉ mỉ, cân nhắc và nói chúng là khó qua ải của nàng. Nhưng nếu bạn tìm một cô nàng có khả năng chăm chút cho gia đình tuyệt vời thì nàng là sự lựa chọn tối ưu. Nhưng cái gì cũng có mặt trái của nó, ngoài việc vun vén cho gia đình xuất sắc ra thì nàng không hẳn sẽ là người thông cảm cho những như cầu thỉnh thoảng giải trí với hội đàn ông của bạn đâu nhé.

Nhưng nếu lỡ trúng tiếng sét của nàng rồi và muốn bất chấp tất cả vì tình yêu thì bạn nên chúng tỏ mình là mọt người sẵn sàng chịu trận trước sự khiểm soát của nàng. Làm cho nàng có lòng tin rằng bạn là một người đàn ông có trác nhiệm và mọi việc đều được lên kế hoạch cho tương lai, dĩ nhiên bao gồm cả tình yêu.

5. Cô gái mộc mạc

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Nhưng cô nàng này dễ tính, dễ chịu, dễ yêu, dễ chiều như đúng tên gọi của nàng vậy. Nàng tuy không sắc sảo và  lạnh lùng, cũng không quá ngọt ngào hay ủy mị, lại càng không cá tính và khó hiểu nhưng đôi khi chính sự đơn sơ đó khiến ta ở bên nàng mà cảm thấy bình yên. Nếu lỡ yêu nàng rồi mà nàng chưa yêu lại thì bạn cũng phải hiểu những cô nàng mộc mạc sẽ có suy nghĩ rằng họ cảm thấy không an toàn với những chàng trai quá trau chuốt, nàng cũng bỏ chạy với những chàng trai khó tính. Nếu sự đối lập trong tính cách tại nên sức hút và bổ sung cho nhau đối với những cô nàng yếu đuối hay cá tính thì điều đó hoàn toàn không tác dụng với cô nàng mộc mạc.

Vì những cô nàng mộc mạc nhìn đời khá thật, và không mộng tưởng cũng như khong thích những điều quá viễn vông. Nàng là một điển hình của sự cân bằng trong tính cách. Nên muốn là một nửa của nàng thì bạn cũng phải cân bằng. Đừng là một chàng trai quá ngọt ngào, cũng đừng quá cá tính.

6. Cô bé siêu quậy

Nhi nhanh

 

Những cô nàng siêu quậy là một điển hình của hội chứng bất chấp tuổi tác và tâm hồn vẫn thiếu nhi. Nhí nhảnh và quậy vặt là vô đối, chính vì thế một thanh niên nghiêm túc hay một quý ông khó tính hoàn toàn khiến cô nàng cảm thấy chán nản vô cùng cực. Giống như trẻ con vậy, việc chơi chung với một đứa trẻ khác sẽ khiến nó cảm thấy vui hơn so với việc chơi với người lớn. Nếu bị nàng hút hồn rồi thì hãy hòa mình vào thế giới của nàng. Trẻ thơ hóa bản thân cũng như cách cú xử để nàng cảm thấy có sự gần gũi đối với bạn. Đặc biệt với những “ siêu quậy” thì một chàng trai có khiếu hài hước luôn được ưu tiên.

 

Hà My – From Paktor with Love!

7 điều thu hút nam giới đã được chứng minh

Dưới dây là 7 thuộc tính của cơ thể đã được khoa học chứng minh sẽ thu hút nam giới. Dù cho bạn không sở hữu những thuộc tính đó từ khi sinh ra thì bạn vẫn có thể tạo ra nó cho bản thân mình.

Bất cứ lúc nào bạn muốn tạo cho mình một vẻ đẹp ấn tượng hoặc đơn giản là bạn muốn tự tin hơn trong các buổi hẹn hò. Thì bạn chỉ cần áp dụng các mẹo sau, đã được chứng minh bởi các nhà nghiên cứu.

 1. Trang điểm

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Đàn ông luôn nói rằng họ yêu thích vẻ đẹp tự nhiên và không thích việc trang điểm. Nhưng nhà tạo mẫu đại tài Calvin Klein từng nói: “ Điều tuyệt vời nhất là vẻ đẹp tự nhiên, nhưng để có được vẻ đẹp tự nhiên đó chúng ta cần trang điểm.”

Một cuộc thí nghiệm bởi nhà tâm lý học xã hội Nicolas:

Cuộc thí nghiệm với hai phụ nữ trẻ ngồi trong một quán bar ở Pháp. Một trong hai người có trang điểm, người còn lại chỉ đơn giản là làm sạch và sử dụng sản phẩm dưỡng ẩm. Họ ngồi ở quầy bar và chờ những đối tượng nam đến làm quen với họ, rồi sau đó họ sẽ từ chối với lý do là bạn của họ sắp đến.

Cuộc thí nghiệm được lặp lại 60 lần, mỗi lần một giờ trong hai quán khác nhau. Và kết quả là:

Đối với người phụ nữ không trang điểm, người đầu tiên tiếp cận họ với thời gian trung bình là 23 phút và tỷ lệ đến làm quen sau đó là 1,5 người/giờ

Còn đối với người phụ nữ có trang điểm, người đàn ông đầu tiên đến làm quen với họ chỉ sau 17 phút, và tỷ lệ làm quen sau đó là 2 người/giờ.

2. Nếu bạn không có nhiều thời gian cho việc trang điểm, hãy tập trung vào đôi mắt

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Trong một nghiên cứu khác, các nhà nghiên cứu cố tìm ra điểm nào trên gương mặt khi được trang điểm sẽ hấp dẫn nam giới nhất. Và kết quả cho thấy việc trang điểm mắt có ảnh hưởng lớn nhất, theo sau đó là lớp phấn nền. Một đôi mắt đẹp với hàng mi cong rất có sức hút đối với đàn ông và một lớp nền mịn màng, đều màu, có độ ẩm thay vì bong tróc sẽ là điều được để tâm không kém.

3.Nếu bạn có nhiều thời gian hơn cho việc trang điểm, hãy sử dụng son môi đỏ

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Những nhà khoa học tại Đại Học Manchester đã sử dụng phần mềm theo dõi chuyển động mắt và thấy rằng trong 10 giây đầu tiên sau khi được giới thiệu với một người phụ nữ, nam giới có xu hướng giành nhiều hơn 5 giây nhìn vào đôi môi của cô gái và đặc biệt lâu hơn đối với những cô gái sử dụng son môi màu đỏ. Điều này được kiểm chứng với bất kể hình dạng của đôi môi. Ngoài ra cũng nhiều nam giới chia sẻ rằng họ đặc biệt thích màu son đỏ hơn bất kì màu son đa dạng khác.

4. Hãy nhuộm tóc nàu tối

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Một cuộc khảo sát với hơn 2000 người đàn ông trên mạng xã hội, kết quả cho thấy đàn ông thường thích những cô gái có màu tóc nâu đậm. Cuộc khảo sát này nghiên cứu những đặc điểm nổi bật mà những người đàn ông thấy hấp dẫn nhất ở phụ nữ, và 1/3 người trả lời rằng họ thấy mái tóc màu nâu hấp dẫn nhất, trong khi có 28,6% đàn ông cho biết họ thích phụ nữ với mái tóc đen – điều này có nghĩa là gần 60% nam giới thích phụ nữ có mài tóc màu tối. Ngoài ra, chia sẻ thêm cho bạn một số thông tin rằng 29.5% đàn ông thích tóc vàng và chỉ có 8.8% thích tóc đỏ.

5. Tránh xa các kiểu tóc cột nửa đầu

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Bạn biết đấy tóc là một phần quan trọng trong việc để lại ấn tượng về ngoại hình với đối phương. Theo một nghiên cứu gần đây của Pantene, 87% nam giới đã khẳng định vấn đề này.

Trong một cuộc phỏng vấn, Steve Ward – người mai mối chuyên nghiệp và dẫn chương trình của kênh VH1 – Chương trình truyền hình thực tế tại Mỹ có tên Tough Love của tờ Daily Makeover, ông nói rằng kiểu tóc buộc nửa đầu trông  không hề hấp dẫn , còn khi bạn cột lỏng kiểu tóc đuôi ngựa thì lại nhìn như có vẻ bạn không để tâm đến mái tóc của mình. Còn đối với kiểu tóc đuôi ngựa được cột chặt lại khiến bạn nhìn hơi đáng sợ.

Nam giới chia sẻ rằng họ đặc biệt thích những mái tóc quăn bồng bềnh hay xoăn hoang dã, hoặc những kiểu tóc búi để lộ gáy và xương đòn gợi cảm.

Mái tóc gợn sóng một cách tự nhiên là kiểu tóc Steve Ward cho rằng quyến rũ nhất.

6. Mang kính áp tròng màu

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Đại Học Toronto đã có một nghiên cứu về mối liên quan giữa những đặc điểm trên khuôn mặt và sự hấp dẫn của phụ nữ. Trong nghiên cứu này, các nhà nghiên cứu phát hiện ra rằng nam giới cảm thấy những người phụ nữ có vòng giác mạc dày và màu giác mạc tối hấp dẫn hơn.

Màu giác mạc của bạn thường nhạt dần khi bạn già đi và cũng không còn trong đồng thời nhạt màu hơn khi bạn đang bị bệnh. Do đó, màu giác mạc nổi bật và trong hơn khi bạn trẻ trung, khỏe mạnh và vui vẻ. Khi đó đôi mắt và đặc biệt là giác mạc của bạn nổi bật, trong và long lanh hơn, điều này cũng khiến nam giới bị thu hút hơn.

Có nhiều loại kính áp tròng trên thị trường giúp bạn có màu giác mạc nổi bật, tròng mắt sẽ trong và long lanh hơn cũng như lớn hơn với việc sử dụng kính áp tròng có độ giãn tròng. Tuy nhiên kính giãn tròng với độ giãn nhẹ sẽ tự nhiên hơn.

Vì vậy thỉnh thoảng khi muốn tròng mắt của bạn được nổi bật, bạn có thể ăn gian bằng cách sử dụng nó. Tuy nhiên, không nên sử dụng quá thường xuyên, điều đó không tốt cho mắt của bạn.

7. Không nên dùng nước hoa giống người yêu cũ của anh ấy

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Theo một cuộc thăm dò của tạp chí Glamous thảo luận cùng các chuyên gia về mùi hương. Tiến sĩ Alan Hirch đã đưa ra thông tin rằng: Mỗi người đàn ông có thể nhớ lại loại nước hoa đặc trưng mà bạn gái cũ đã dùng. Khi được hỏi rằng điều đó có là vấn đề không nếu người yêu hiện tại cũng dùng loại mùi hương tương tự, họ đã trả lời rằng : “Thà cô ấy không dùng nó thì hơn!”

Tuy nhiên, nếu bạn không biết loại mùi hương người yêu cũ anh ta sử dụng, thì hãy thử dùng những loại nước hoa mới nhất hoặc sử dụng mùi hương đam mê như Dolce &Gabbana Light Blue, nồng nàn như Black Orchid của Tom Ford hay tươi mát như Hermès’ Eau d’OrangeVerte. Những loại mùi hương này đều khiến bạn trở nên thu hút.

Mặt khác, nam giới không thích mùi hương của thực phẩm. Họ cảm thấy mùi Chocolate là mùi khiến mất hứng nhất. Theo khảo sát, có sự ngoại lệ duy nhất đối với mùi hương Vali. Những mùi hoa cỏ nồng cũng không được nam giới yêu thích.

 

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Dating: So Bad and Yet So Good

If you have been dating, and dating, and dating(!!) and somehow still haven’t found Mr/Miss About Right (oh yeah, gone are the days when we must have Exactly Right), you must be feeling pretty sick of it. Why do we persist? Is it the sinking feeling in your stomach that says you may not be wired for Complete and Utter Independence? Is it for lack of something better to do with your time (who are you and why haven’t you been ensnared by the long arms of the Internet)?

Indulge me here but I think it is our strong survival instinct, that intrinsic knowledge that tells us dating is somehow good for us. As unbelievably bad as it can seem, way too often, it somehow betters us, and moulds us into an upgraded Version 2.0.

Tony Stark 2.0
Credits: http://www.tencentticker.com/ 

 

Rejection Strengthens your Attitude towards Failure

The worst part of dating is probably rejection and it hits you right at your first step. Moments after you work up your courage to say “Hi” to that sweetie pie in your office, you discover she isn’t that sweet after all. Your friend introduces you to her friend, whom she swears is the “nicest guy in the world” – Yep, not so nice. How many times can you walk into that wall and not crumble into a miserable mess?

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Amazingly, you find yourself doing it over and over again. Gradually you realise that walking into a wall is not such a big deal. You learn to deal with it – just get up and find another way, a concept no different from facing difficulties at work, obstacles in life, all of which are inevitable but mostly just make us stronger.

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Dating teaches you that Anything is Possible

You get all dressed up over and over again and nothing happens. Then one day, you’re hanging out with your best buds wearing your ratty old tee and glasses, and bang, you meet someone’s acquaintance and suddenly you’re dating. To say that love is a freaky random thing is putting it mildly. Should this make you despair? No! Let this be a reminder of the infinite possibilities in this world. The fact is anything Can Happen if you go out there and embrace life for all its quirky unpredictability. Believe that good things happen and they will. Make sure you’re ready.

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Experience makes you Wiser

7 boyfriends later, sure, you might be a little bitter and somewhat confused about how it all works but there is no denying what doesn’t work. Obsessive compulsive workaholic doesn’t work. Sporty exercise freak doesn’t work. Romantic ultra-possessive doesn’t work. See what experience can do for you? The next time Mr Loves-Himself-More-than-Life asks for your number, you can laugh in his face and walk away. Efficiency is now your middle name. You can go through double the number of men you used to in half the time.

Just try not to leave a bloodbath in your wake.

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~ Li Ching (Who Yearns to be Stronger, Wiser and Ready for Anything)

 

Speed Dating: The Perspective of a Thirty-Year Old Singaporean Single Dude

**This blog entry was submitted and written by a satisfied GaiGai attendee who wishes to remain anonymous**

 

Speed Dating: The Perspective of a Thirty-Year Single Dude

First let me begin by saying… I’m still single, but I’m pretty much on my way (I hope) to getting hitched. And this is pretty much my reflection (which I believe happens to a lot of us) of how a small step (or a few clicks can change your life). And by that I don’t mean a mail-ordered bride or porn… I mean speed dating… Yes it sounds lame… but you’d be surprised at the people you’d meet. They actually all have 1 nose, 2 eyes and don’t look like Shrek nor smell like your next-door neighbour who hasn’t found out an invention called the shower.

In fact, I’ve actually gone a couple of dates with someone I met at a speed-dating event just a couple of weeks ago (we’re not together yet. But we’ll see…).

Anyway, I digress…. So if you have about 5 minutes to spare…. Look through what I have to say and judge for yourself! All I have to say is: Speed Dating Changed My Life !

 

The Chance Encounter

So it was one of those days… As I stared blankly into my desktop and work, crunching numbers, preparing my next business presentation.

Grzzz… Grzzz…

My Whatsapp just went off! Is someone going to be asking me out for dinner? I peered at my phone with excitement, and guess what I saw – “Son, coming home for dinner?” As much as I loved my mum, this really wasn’t what I was hoping for.

 

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Yes. I’m probably one of those people you’d wonder if I were asexual. I’m better friends with my excel spreadsheets, PowerPoint presentations and proposals that I am with any living breathing female, although I’d recently named my new computer “Alice”.   I’m thirty, relatively established in my career, VERY available but also EVEN MORE SINGLE.

Why? I just never got out very much. College was by far the last chance I had at meeting someone, but I blew it, because a good degree would get me further in life than any partner would – so says society.

The next thing that happened was less than what I hoped for (at least at first)…

Grzzz… Grzz…

This time I said to myself, I’m going to ignore anyone who isn’t asking me out. So I stole a glance at my phone. A familiar looking notification in a heart shape (Paktor’s notification) appeared.

OMG DID I GET A MATCH? – Much to my dismay, it wasn’t a match but a notification about a speed dating event that was coming up at Hort Park. GREAT! I thought to myself, even the app is telling me I’m a loser… (#$&#$^!)*!

 

The Epiphany

Fast forward 2 hours, it was 8pm. Time to go home. As I took a cab home, I instinctively took out my phone again. Let’s see if anyone liked me… … nope no luck at all. I had a number of matches but for someone like me… it never went beyond the small talk and the chats… mainly because I was a wuss who didn’t dare ask anyone of them out.

Then it struck me! What if I didn’t even have to ask them out? Isn’t that the whole point about speed dating? You just meet people! Without having to ask them out in the first place! IDEA RIGHT??? So I fast hand fast leg, signed up, paid and got the details from GaiGai. I shan’t go into the boring details of the confirmation process because I pretty much forgot all the details except the fact that I was going to meet 12 DIFFERENT GIRLS!!!! WOOOHOOOOO !!

 

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The Moment of Truth

3 days later, I was there, in my smartest looking suit– specially tailored when I was invited to a snazzy F1 suite last year as part of a client event. This was the second time I had it on, I was dressed to kill (or so I thought) but at the same time I was 20 minutes early, pacing up and down the toilet and breaking into perspiration because Singapore is just too damn humid and no one wears a friggin’ suit and paces up and down the toilet. – I was right! I was dressed to kill, to kill myself that is !

So then people starting entering Vineyard at Hortpark, as I watched, I didn’t want to be caught in an awkward conversation with the hosts of the speed dating session nor with the other dudes or ladies. I was in the zone, psyching myself up.

Without realizing it, it was 10 minutes past the time we were supposed to all be seated. I finally stepped in, pretending to be nonchalant. Upon entering, I was greeted by the host, Charlene, she smiled a lot, said a few things which I did not remember nor hear, the only thing I saw was the empty seat I was led to.

So I jumped on the chair and sat… looked ahead in front of me and WOW! I was shocked, she was gorgeous, and at this point I was thinking to myself… WAH I STRIKE 4D man! Not being able to believe my luck, I scanned the room quickly to look at the rest of the 11 ladies, I must say that I started to wonder why they were there, and then I looked at the guys – and suddenly all my preconceived notions about speed dating as a ‘loser’ activity disappeared into thin air.

Everybody in the room was regular, if not, good-looking people!

Back to reality! The session was starting. Charlene, the smiley host kicked off the session by laying out the rules of the night.

  • 7 minutes for each interaction with the person sitting in front of you.
  • Guy moves to his left – the cycle continues till you’ve met all 12 individuals
  • And the end of the session – you can write down the top 3 names of the people you would most like to keep in contact with and if they got your names down as well. GaiGai would share your contacts with each other.

All of this accompanied by good food, drinks and a bowl of cue cards at the table if you run out of things to say (which will happen, trust me).

And so it begins.

Obviously I had some lines ready, but nonetheless, everything went out the window the moment the actual interaction started. The first lady, Marilyn (not her real name), was a doctor, pretty, but according to her, just too busy to meet anyone. I was pretty nervous at first and by pretty nervous, I meant I was a train wreck. I didn’t really know what to say or if a joke would be good to open up the conversation.

“Hi… I’m Eng Loon (that is not my real name)… I really wanted to start this off with a joke but I was afraid you wouldn’t think its funny”

She laughed! Lol! Not because she thought I was really cracking a joke but she thought it was ‘cute’ that I was being so honest and at the ridiculousness of wanting to introduce myself with a joke. Nonetheless her laughter really put me at eased – that really put things on track, so we continued our little chit-chat for the next couple of minutes. Somehow right when the bell went off for us to move seats, we were talking about the morgue – but that didn’t really matter, I had fun and I think so did she.

It was time for me to meet the rest.

Things went a lot smoother for the next 11 ladies, I was less nervous and I think so were they. Every encounter was different, but yet refreshing and fun! Of course, there would occasionally be the 2 second pauses but heck! It was the first time we’ve even met, 2 seconds is definitely excusable. So this went on through the night, and as each interaction went by, it become almost easier to open the conversation and I was really enjoying it.

But alas, all good things must come to an end. Before I knew it – it was the end of the night, there were quite a few nice ladies I had wanted to shortlist but you could only choose three. I guess that works, since it forces you to really think through your choices. Had they given me unlimited choices, I might have just listed everyone down (or at least 6 to 7 names).

So I listed the names of three ladies, submitted my form and left. But not without asking Marilyn for her number, since she was my top choice anyway. Surprisingly she gave me her number! In that instance I felt UNSTOPPABLE!

 

The Happy Disappointment

2 days later, I received a call from Charlene.

Charlene: “Hey you got a match!” (she sounded more excited than me)

Me: “Who? Marilyn isit???”

Charlene: “Why? You like her ah?”

Me: “No la (trying to pretend)… just say la… who?”

Charlene: “It isn’t Marilyn, but Cynthia.”

 

Well I was a bit disappointed that Marilyn didn’t reciprocate, but considering that Cynthia was indeed in my top three choices, I was actually REALLY EXCITED. (side note: thank god I didn’t message Marilyn in the two days).

 

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Charlene gave me Cynthia’s number that led to texting, and a few dates actually!

All these happened just a couple of weeks ago, the couple of dates I’ve been on with Cynthia, were actually, believe it or not, the first dates I’ve had in 3 years. While it’s nothing too serious yet, and we’re pretty much still in the getting to know each other phase, BUT, I have to say, this wouldn’t have been possible if I hadn’t discarded my stereotypes around speed dating and taken a leap of faith.

So… for the guys reading this… ARE YOU READY???

 

This post was originally published on Paktor’s blog.

 

About GaiGai

GaiGai is Paktor’s new business arm that provides bespoke dating services and holds singles events regularly. GaiGai has been featured in numerous publications to date and has received positive feedback by many participants.

 

 

 

Dating App ช่วยให้คุณพบรักแท้ได้นะ รู้ยัง ! Can a Dating App help you find true Love ?

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Dating App ช่วยให้คุณพบรักแท้ได้นะ รู้ยัง ! Can a Dating App help you find true Love ?

ในขณะที่คุณแค่คิดจะซื้ออาหารซีฟู้ดผ่าน instagram เสิร์ชหารีวิวที่พักผ่านแอพเด็ดๆ นั่นก็คงไม่แปลกหรอกนะ ถ้าวันหนึ่งกามเทพจะแผลงศรให้คุณพบใครสักคนผ่าน Paktor เพราะทุกวันนี้ เรามีแอพพลิเคชั่นตอบโจทย์ทุกการใช้ชีวิต วันนี้ Paktor โซเชียลแอพสำหรับหาคู่ จะพาคุณมารู้จักว่า โลกของเดทติ้งแอพ ก็แสนโรแมนซ์ได้นะ รู้ยัง !

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แค่คุณกล้า Flirt เมื่อคุณพร้อมเปิดแอพ
โซเชียลแอพสำหรับหาคู่อย่าง Paktor ไม่กวนใจคุณ เมื่อเวลาไหนที่คุณว่าง แล้วคุณอยากจะสำรวจมองหาเพื่อนใหม่ คุณก็ทำได้ ก็แค่เปิดแอพนั้นแล้วเลื่อนซ้าย เลื่อนขวา มองหาคนถูกใจจากโปรไฟล์ที่บ่งบอกว่า “เราน่าจะเข้ากันได้” ชอบสไตล์ไหนก็คลิกถูกใจไว้ หากเขาคนนั้นถูกใจคุณ คุณทั้งสองคนถึงจะมีโอกาสได้ทำความรู้จักกัน แอพจะโชว์ว่าคุณถูกใจกันและกัน จนมีโอกาสพูดคุย ทักทาย กันในอนาคต
เอาเป็นว่าช่วงไหนวุ่นๆ ก็ยังไม่ต้องเปิดแอพ สำหรับบางคนก็ถ้าคิดว่าฉันโลว์เทค ฉันลองไม่ได้ คุณขา ถ้าคุณแค่เปิด youtube ดูมิวสิควิดิโอได้ แอพสนุกๆ เล่นง่ายๆ แสนเพลิน แบบนี้คุณก็ทำได้แล้วล่ะ

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เพราะมีคนนับสิบล้านทั่วโลก เป็นเหมือนคุณนั่นแหละ
กลัวจัง อายจัง ดูสิ้นหวังไปไหม ถ้าจะบอกเพื่อนในกลุ่มว่าตอนนี้ “ฉันกำลังลองเดทกับคนๆ หนึ่งผ่าน เดทติ้งแอพ อยู่” ไม่เห็นจะต้องกลัว ไม่เห็นจะต้องมัวเหนียมอายไปเลย เพราะข้อมูลล่าสุดจากเว็บไซต์ยอดฮิต mashable.com รายงานว่า ตอนนี้มีคนโสดกว่า 40 ล้านคนทั่วโลก ใช้บริการเดทติ้งออนไลน์ เดทติ้งแอพ เพื่อหารักแท้กันทั้งนั้นแหละ และนั่นแปลว่าคุณไม่ได้เป็นคนเหงาที่แปลกประหลาด แต่ยุคนี้ เวลานี้ การมองหาเพื่อนคุยที่ถูกใจสักคนผ่านกามเทพยุคดิจิทัล เป็นเรื่องปกติ แสนปกติ (ก็เหมือนอารมณ์คุณตดในผ้าห่มนั่นแหละ อุ๊บส์ … นั่นแปลว่า ปกติ ใครๆ เขาก็ทำกัน )

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แล้วเดทติ้งแอพ ผิดกฎ destiny of love หรือเปล่า ?
บางคนที่เคร่งศาสนา อาจมีความคิดว่า เรากำลังฝืนกฎธรรมชาติรึเปล่า
ตอบง่ายๆ เลยว่า ไม่ใช่ ไม่เกี่ยวกัน
ลองคิดเล่นๆ ดูสิ เมื่อคุณซื้อบ้าน คุณยังต้องเสิร์ชหาในอินเตอร์เน็ต หรือมีนายหน้าดีๆ สักคนแนะนำให้คุณพบบ้านในฝันเลย หรือย้อนไปในสมัยที่คุณเรียนมหาวิทยาลัย คุณยังต้องมีกูรูคอยแนะนำให้คุณพบมหาวิทยาลัยที่ใช่ ! แล้วสำหรับความรักล่ะ คนที่ใช่ ที่จะเข้ามาในชีวิต โดยผ่านช่องทางอย่างผ่านเดทติ้งแอพจะเป็นเรื่องผิดแปลกอะไร (มาถึงบรรทัดนี้ อย่าได้แคร์) นั่นเพราะเดทติ้งแอพเปรียบเหมือนสะพาน เปรียบเหมือน destiny เป็นช่องทางให้คุณได้ค้นพบเพื่อนใหม่ๆ ในชีวิต หนุ่มสาวต่างประเทศหลายคนที่เคยพบรักกันผ่านโลกโซเชียล ต่างพูดเป็นเสียงเดียวกันว่า God led them to the Social APP
สุดท้ายนี้ Paktor แอพโซเชียลสำหรับหาคู่ ขอเป็นกำลังใจให้คุณสลัดความกลัว อย่ากลัวว่าการเริ่มต้นเดทติ้งผ่านแอพ ว่าจะเป็นเรื่องแปลกประหลาดในสายตาคนอื่น (เพราะใครๆ ก็สนุกกันได้นะสิ ) เดทติ้งแอพ คือโอกาสที่จะทำให้คุณ พบเรื่องตื่นเต้นท้าทาย คนใหม่ๆ ในชีวิตมากกว่า นะสิ !

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7 tell-tail signs to help you find a man who can make you a proper sandwich

Once upon a time, it was well known that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Today in sunny Singapore where the good life equates to the foodie life, the way to most people’s heart is through the stomach.

Not only do we eat our way to all parts of the island, we have taken our kitchens by storm, replicating the food we love by scouring best recipes online (bless the Internet). So how can we identify a good catch based on his cooking habits? Here’s a quick look at how you can choose your man from the food he cooks.

 

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  1. He only cooks Maggi Mee.

Ah Maggi Mee…we’ve all had our love affairs with this one. Curry – that’s my all-time favourite. But that was then and this is now. If your man is still eating Maggi Mee exclusively when there’s Koka, Nong Shim, Nissin, Indomie, Prima Taste, My Kuali (!!!), well, I can only say…Y A W N. Variety is the spice of life and food AND love. I say it’s time to seek a more interesting man.

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  1. He has his Name Embroidered on his Personal Apron.

Do I need to mention the chef’s hat in the pantry, the full set of knifes, and the pasta maker? If you’re so lucky to be invited into this kitchen, you would never want to leave. He’s someone who’s taken his passion about food to the highest level and believes in putting in effort where it counts. If he feels the same way about you, you’re one lucky woman. Even if he dumps you, beg to be his friend so you can still hang around his kitchen. No, seriously.

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  1. He can make 13 kinds of salad.

I can add salad dressing to lettuce and tomatoes. Clearly, he cares about his health. If you feel the same way, you can probably live together with him for eternity. But if you’re more of a junkie girl, his habit of counting calories will probably drive you nuts, figuratively of course.

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  1. You can’t recognise half of what you eat in his kitchen.

Adventure is his middle name. He probably loves travelling, eating exotic foods and meeting strangers. He is open-minded and curious about the unknown. If you feel nervous when someone moves your stapler to the far end of the table, he is probably not your kind of guy.

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  1. He has a pet name for his microwave.

Personally, I love my microwave. There is no shame in loving gadgets that make your life easier, especially when you’re hungry. Pet names though, might be crossing a line. This is one lazy dude. If you have ever dreamed of having breakfast served to you in bed, forget this guy. He probably expects YOU to warm up his Microwaveable Mac & Cheese dinner!

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  1. He gets lost looking for the kitchen.

What kitchen?

Unfortunately this is all too typical of many guys who grew up well fed and doted on by loving, indulging mums/domestic helpers. So is this guy screwed? Not really, as long as he listens to his mum’s advice to find a nice girl who cooks and cleans. Apply only if that’s who you are.

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~ Li Ching (Who knows Exactly where her Stapler is)

 

 

 

Breakup Etiquette in the 21st Century

In a perfect world, Ryan Gosling would love only you even though the whole world loves him. In our not-so-perfect world, Ryan Gosling has no idea who you are (if it makes you feel any better, he doesn’t know who I am either) and your boyfriend is the male lead in yet another breakup in your life. But (say it with me) we’re cool, we’re mature, and we don’t give a crap about ratty men who want to leave. For more concrete do’s and don’ts, read on, sister.

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  1. If you’re the Breaker, make a Clean Cut.

If you love movies, you know there are many ways to break up a relationship. You could break up over SMS, sell your HDB flat and leave the country, or pretend to believe in aliens/werewolves/hello kitty and wait for her to dump you. None of this is cool. What you should really do in the 21st century is remote control a drone to fly past her window broadcasting a thoughtfully written breakup message.

I hope by now you can tell when I’m kidding.

Breaking up is simple – Meet them, Tell them, Be kind.

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  1. If you’re the Breakee, Don’t Bother to Ask Why.

Why, you ask. Isn’t knowing why vital for improving myself and getting better at relationships? While that sounds good and sensible in theory, it never works out in reality. Firstly, honesty can be brutal and people breaking up with you hardly ever want to be brutal (unless they’re really, really nasty) and hence they often lie. Secondly, relationships often end without a concrete reason. Thirdly, sometimes people are not even sure themselves what the reasons are. Fourthly, sometimes people are stupid and what they think the reasons are may not be the reasons at all. I could go on but if this relationship is over, knowing why may not make any difference to the next one at all (different person = different relationship dynamics = different problems)

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  1. Be Cool – Revenge is for Losers.

As shiok as it may feel to set your ex’s clothes on fire, the feeling is temporary but your reputation as the Psycho Ex will last forever. Remember that you are a cool, mature Woman of the 21st century and such displays of emotion are beneath you. Besides, you never know if his nosy neighbour will post the whole thing on Stomp.

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  1. Don’t go Batty on your Friends.

There is nothing wrong with some grousing to your friends. Even random tears and a couple of drunken karaoke sessions are perfectly acceptable. But you can’t go on forever. Your friends love you and will gamely endure your fits of bi-polar manic-depressive episodes but not forever. Remember to move on. It’s not worth losing your friends over your ex.

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  1. Avoid Social Media.

Remember when XXX posted YYY on ZZZ and was lambasted by everyone/got fired by his company/had to leave the country? We live in sensitive times and a slip of the fingers could easily land you in bigger trouble than you had ever imagined. Take heed, buy a notebook and write in your diary instead.

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~ Li Ching (Who is Cool as a Cucumber)

 

 

 

10 Relationship Questions You have Always Wanted to ask Men

It is widely believed that women can be hard to understand. If you’re a man who’s ever been on the perplexed end of this spectrum, you have my sympathy. But men are hardly as simple as ABC either, and clearly because I think women don’t already have enough to say, here are some relationship questions women have been dying to ask men. (I know…So useful right? Only questions, no answers. Okay, since I know you want it, you really, really want it, I will draw on my manly inner self and give you some answers. Just for you only.)

Relationship Questions
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  1. Why do men think that being in a long-term relationship is the end of fun?

Men: What are you talking about? We love being in long-term relationships. Sleeping with one woman for the rest of our lives, constantly having to fight over the remote, getting to know the intricate details of all our faults on a daily basis without paying for therapy? It’s like a dream come true.

Relationship Questions
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  1. Is there such a thing as “too slutty”?

Men: No, I mean yes.

 

  1. What percentage of your female friends do you want to sleep with?

Men: 100, I mean, zero, absolutely zero percent.

Relationship Questions
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  1. Have you cheated? How often?

Men: What exactly do you mean by cheating? Is this a trick question?

 

  1. How often do you look at porn?

Men: Does looking at it in our heads count?

Relationship Questions
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  1. What is going through your head when we’re mad at you?

Men: We are thinking contrite thoughts. Devoutly.

Relationship Questions
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  1. Why do you expect us to watch action movies with you when you do not watch rom-coms with us?

Men: We watch rom-coms with you! Remember that year we were travelling through Europe and got stranded at that B&B which had only that DVD, what was it again? Oh yes, When Harry Met Sally.

Relationship Questions
http://giphy.com/gifs/when-harry-met-sally-rBa8Ryrj2yeOY

 

  1. Why won’t you ask for directions?

Men: Sure we do. We always follow directions when we buy IKEA furniture. How do you think we got that cabinet up so fast?

 

  1. Why do you enjoy video games so much?

Men: Why do you enjoy buying shoes so much?

Relationship Questions
http://giphy.com/gifs/miley-cyrus-awkward-smile-sjTEF3Gtw8FOw

 

 10. Why don’t you ever change the toilet paper?

Men: Oh. It’s not automated?

Relationship Questions
http://giphy.com/gifs/thor-manly-rUbSuoejSaZws

 

 

~ Li Ching (Who is the Toilet-Paper-Changing Autobot)