5 lời khuyên giúp bạn thu hút người khác phái

Mỗi chúng ta đều có những cách nhìn khác nhau về cái đẹp, vậy nên chúng ta cũng sẽ bị thu hút bởi những điều không giống nhau.

Nhưng bạn có biết hầu hết nữ giới và nam giới sẽ bị thu hút bởi những điều gì không? Và phải làm thế nào để khiến bản thân trở nên thu hút hơn?

 Dành cho phái đẹp

1. Nụ cười

“Đàn ông yêu bằng mắt” đó là những gì phụ nữ luôn truyền tai nhau. Vậy chẳng có lý do gì các nàng không tặng cho những đôi mắt ấy một nụ cười.

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Hầu hết các chàng trai sẽ bị thu hút bởi một cô gái có nụ cười toả nắng và bên cạnh đó nụ cười là biểu hiện của sự thân thiện, điều đó thôi thúc các chàng trai muốn nhanh chóng làm quen và cảm thấy bớt căng thẳng hơn khi trò chuyện với cô ấy. Vậy một nụ cười toả nắng sẽ là một nụ cười như thế nào? Nụ cười ấy chắc chắn sẽ phải là một nụ cười tự nhiên, không gượng ép và không nửa vời. Sẽ là điều tuyệt vời nếu bạn sở hữu một nụ cười ngọt ngào và thông minh.

2. Cách trang điểm

Các chàng trai luôn bị ấn tượng bởi màu son môi và đặc biệt thích màu son đỏ hồng tự nhiên. Một trong những nghiên cứu đã nói lên rằng màu đỏ luôn được đánh giá cao hơn so với những màu khác.

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Cánh mày râu luôn đề cao nét đẹp tự nhiên, nhưng là vẻ đẹp tự nhiên của một gương mặt được trang điểm tự nhiên chứ không phải một gương mặt nhạt nhoà tự nhiên. Và có một điều là họ luôn phản đối một gương mặt được trang điểm quá “ ảo diệu”. Vì điều đó khiến họ cảm thấy như đang nói chuyện với một chiếc mặt nạ và đương nhiên là điều đó mang lại cảm giác không mấy thoải mái.

Lời khuyên cho các nàng là hãy trang điểm thật nhẹ nhàng, tôn lên những nét nổi bật của mình, điều đó thật sự khiến các chàng trai cảm thấy bạn thật dễ thương.

3. Mái tóc

Tóc ngắn không hẳn là không đẹp vì nó mang lại một vẻ đẹp dễ thương hoặc cá tính. Nhưng nếu hỏi thật sự các chàng trai thích một cô gái có mái tóc như thế nào thì câu trả lời luôn đa phần là mái tóc dài. Một mái tóc bồng bềnh gợn sóng càng được đánh giá cao và cô gái sở hữu mái tóc như vậy thật sự là bạn sẽ thu hút không ít chàng trai đâu.

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Còn đối với một mái tóc bết, đầy gàu hoặc xơ xác và chỉa lung tung bất định thì ắt hẳn sẽ để lại một sự ấn tượng không mấy tốt trong mắt các anh chàng rồi.

Vậy nên các cô nương hẳn là không được lơ là mái tóc của mình nhé!

4. Giọng nói và cách nói

Không phải cô gái nào cũng được trời phú cho chất giọng tinh tế, nhẹ nhàng chuẩn Hà Thành hay ngọt ngào êm ái chuẩn Nam Bộ. Nhưng bạn không biết một điều là đôi khi vấn đề không phải ở giọng nói, vùng miền mà có nằm ở cách nói. Đừng để các chàng trai phải cảm thấy hoảng sợ vì những âm thanh phát ra từ bạn nhé.

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Dù bạn ở vùng miền nào, chất giọng ra sao thì một cô gái luôn nói năng từ tốn, nhẹ nhàng, âm lượng vừa phải với giọng nói mang nhiều cảm xúc thì đó mới chính là điều tạo nên sự thu hút đặc biệt . Bên cạnh đó, đừng tỏ ra thời ơ hay ngán ngẩm trước những câu chuyện của chàng thì bạn sẽ càng đánh giá cao đấy.

5. Cách ăn mặc

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Điều này là một trong những điều quan trọng trong những điều quan trọng mà ắt hẳn ai cũng biết. Bạn không cần phải quá cầu kì nhưng sự xuề xoà, lập dị hay lôi thôi thì chắc hẳn không nằm trong mục yêu thích của chàng rồi.

Một bộ cánh giản dị nhưng đủ tinh tế, khéo théo thể hiện tính cách nhưng không quá lập dị xuề xoà là đủ cho buổi gặp gỡ đầu tiên rồi. Một cái váy không có quá nhiều hoạ tiết, không quá cầu kì là sự lựa chọn tối ưu. Chàng sẽ cảm thấy bạn gần gũi hơn và điều đó khiến anh ấy không phải quá e dè trong khi gặp gỡ bạn. Đôi khi bạn không ngờ rằng các chàng trai lại bị quyết rũ bởi những điều giản dị nhất.

Dành cho đàn ông: “Hãy thể hiện tính cách”

1. Luôn trung thực

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Điều tối kị trong buổi hẹn đầu tiên là khi bạn khiến cho nàng cảm thấy bạn là một người nói quá nhiều và thích phô diễn bản thân. Nàng sẽ nghĩ đó là những biểu hiện của người không chân thành và không đángt tin. “Chém gió” chỉ khiến cho những cuộc vui với bạn bè trở nên thú vị nhưng lại mang lại một ấn tượng không hề tốt đối với những buổi hẹn của một mối quan hệ nghiêm túc. Có thể vì phép lịch sự, cô ấy sẽ lắng nghe nhưng kì thực trong lòng đang nhanh chóng muốn kết thúc buổi hẹn này.

2. Nói rõ ràng

Hầu hết các cô gái bị hấp dẫn bởi một chàng trai có cách nói chuyện rõ ràng, không lắp bắp, không lúng túng, dễ nghe và từ tốn trong cách nói chuyện. Có thể bạn không phải là một chàng trai khéo ăn nói nhưng bạn phải đảm bảo được rằng bạn biết điều chỉnh âm lượng của mình và có thể nói chuyện một cách rõ ràng.

Việc bạn biết bản thân cần nói gì và nên nói gì chứng minh bạn là một người đàn ông chin chắn và biết suy nghĩ. Và mẫu người như vậy luôn hấp dẫn những cô gái.

3. Đừng quá nghiêm túc

Bạn có biết rằng: “ Hài hước là thước đo tuyệt vời của trí thông minh”.

Hẳn là bạn biết rằng những chàng trai có khả năng hài hước luôn được lòng phái đẹp. Bởi chinhs sự hài hước đó khiến các cô nàng cảm thấy cuộc nói chuyện tự nhiên hơn, thú vị hơn, vui vẻ hơn. Sự nghiêm túc là cần thiết nhưng nó chỉ nằm trong vấn đề suy nghĩ và tình cảm của bạn hoặc trong những lúc bạn cần một cuộc nói chuyện nghiêm túc với cô ấy. còn bình thường thì hãy khiến cho nàng “ dễ thở “ hơn bằng sự hài hước của bạn nhé.

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Hoặc nếu như bạn không có khả năng hài hước trời sinh thì ít nhất cũng đường khiến cô gái của bạn luôn phải căng thẳng vì sự nghiêm túc của bạn. Cuộc sống đã có vô vàn những áp lực, nên chúng ta luôn muốn tìm một người giúp chúng ta cảm thấy nhẹ nhàng và vui vẻ hơn phải không nào.

4. Khen đúng cách

Sẽ chẳng có cô nàng nào từ chối những lời khen đâu, nhưng đó là đối với những lời khen chân thật, những lời khen khiến họ cảm thấy bạn thật sự để tâm đến họ. Tuy nhiên các chàng trai không biết rằng những cô gái sẽ không cảm thấy thoải mái lắm khi bạn chỉ liên tục khen về ngoại hình của cô ấy, hãy hạn chế khen về vẻ bề ngoài mà hãy dành cho nàng những lời khen về tính cách. Những lời khen về sự tốt bụng, dịu dàng và than thiện luôn khiến nàng cảm thấy bạn là một chàng trai tinh tế. Và điều đó khiến bạn trở nên thu hút hơn trong mắt nàng.

5. Hãy lắng nghe

Có một câu ngạn ngữ nước ngoài nói rằng: “ Cách nói chuyện hay nhất với phụ nữ là…im lặng” nhưng hiểu một cách sâu sắc thì phụ nữ luôn cần được lắng nghe, vì vây cách tốt nhất để “ thoả thuận” với nàng là hãy lắng nghe cô ấy. Đừng dại dột cắt ngang lời phụ nữ vì như vậy họ sẽ có cảm giác bạn không để tâm đến cảm giác của họ, không biết chia sẻ và cuối cùng là không thấu hiểu họ.

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Một chàng trai đủ kiên nhẫn lắng nghe và cuối cùng đưa ra những lời khuyên chân thành thì trong mắt nàng, bạn đã như một “ người hùng” vừa trở về từ cơn bão ngôn luận của nàng. Các cô nàng luôn đánh giá cao những chàng trai biết lắng nghe.

 

From Paktor with Love

 

Get Your Date’s Attention: Focus On Eyes & Smile, Study Says

A study based on the survey of 1,000 men shows that the first thing that draws the attention of a men of a woman is her eyes. This is probably contrary to what you may think – that a man is more interested in the feature that’s further down. But his gaze does wander down south next – we’re talking about the woman’s megawatt smile. This is followed by a glance at her breasts.

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The next on the list are hair, overall weight, and then legs. This is followed by the dress sense, and then the skin.

However, the study shows that tall girls have their height noticed first, before the man focuses on her eyes.

Predictably, though, his gaze does wander south next, taking in the lucky lady’s dazzling smile before an appreciative glance at her breasts. Only then is our Romeo likely to notice her well-coiffed hair and consider her overall weight before eyeing up her legs.

For women, the same features – eyes and smile – catch their attention too. The third and fourth on the list are height and hair. Next: dress sense, weight, skin, face shape, bottom and nose, which is probably good news for most men, because it means you can invest in a good wardrobe to quickly improve your affinity with women.

 

From Paktor with Love!

The Importance of Deodorant in a Kopitiam Love Story

It is a hot day. I was buying lunch at the kopitiam. It usually takes 20 minutes. Today it is looking more like 30 minutes because two construction guys looking hot, I mean fit, were buying 300 packets of rice, presumably for the whole construction crew. But I cannot fault them. These guys work hard building our HDB flats and a man’s gotta eat when a man’s gotta eat. Usually on a 20-minute walk, I do not sweat, I mean glow. But 30 minutes is really pushing it.

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My deep thoughts on personal hygiene were suddenly interrupted by an explosive cackle. I looked up. The lady manning the stall was laughing coquettishly at the Fit Man. Their eyes were locked across the trays of sambal kang kong and soya sauce chicken. He smiled, a little shyly, probably unused to being hit on by unabashed stall vendors. She continued her advance, vivaciously scooping extra curry into his rice till he held up his hand authoritatively – enough. It was fascinating. A Kopitiam Love Story. It made a lot of sense. There were only so many places you can meet someone. And there were only so many places you can eat at so you end up eating regularly at many of these. You meet the same vendors, you meet the same customers. It was awfully convenient.

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He moved to the cashier to pay. She nudged the cashier gently out of her territory. No one was getting in the way of True Love. Within the cacophony of life around them, she whispered the total amount. He dug around in his wallet for notes, coins and moved to hand over his money. For a brief infinite moment, their hands touched. Then it was over. He gave her one last smile. She reminded him to come back tomorrow, and watched, a little wistfully as he hurried off after his friend. Then the magic was over. Brusquely, Stall Lady turned to the next customer.

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Still waiting, I returned to my musings about personal hygiene. I sniffed delicately. Okay, I smell like prata and char kway tiao. It could have been worse. I checked out the tall, smartly-dressed man at the next table devouring his fishball noodles with vigour. He’s sort of cute, in the you-have-to-lower-your-standards-when-you’re-men-shopping-in-a-kopitiam way. But he’s always eating fishball noodles. Hmm. Boring. Still, I had better use deodorant the next time I go out to buy lunch. You never know whom you’ll meet. “Next!” Stall Lady glared at me and I humbly but quickly ordered my food.

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~ Li Ching (Who Loves Love Stories)

This Is Why I’m Single.

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Hello guys!
So, you guys remember Smith right? This is Smith.

No, not the one on the left. That’s me. I’m referring to the one on the right of course. Smith Leong.

He’s my friend who helps me navigate through the online maze that is known as Tao Bao to help me buy anything from wigs to sports bras. He sometimes bitches that I’m throwing Tao Bao off target when it comes to his customer profile. But, Tao Bao is messy and I have yet to get an account. So meanwhile, Smith has kindly offered to help me make all my purchases.

Anyway, Smith posted this well, I wouldn’t call it an article, just a link to someone’s not very coherrent thoughts on why she is single.

Based on the comments that came with the link, I guess wasn’t the only one who thought that her thoughts were all over the place. But since we’re on the topic, I would like to highlight that I actually I have a lot of thoughts on this being single thing and I am quite sure I have organised them rather logically. (Although whether each point is logical is a whole different story). So, in accordance to Smith’s suggestion here:
I am going to blog about why I am single. Smith, just for you okay. Because I realise I always procrastinate and possibly never blog about all the things you ask me to blog about. Sorry. HAHA.

#1 I have many guy friends.

Now, allow me to clarify that I am not the sort who feels that my boyfriend would be threatened by my many guy friends ok. But you know, sometimes you get your friends to QC the guy you are seeing. You think it’s tough when girls shoot down the guy that you’re considering?

(Via Buzzfeed).

Wait until you see what guys have to say about your hypothetical potentials…

That being said, I love my guy friends. They are awesome.

#2 I am a very awkward person.

Nobody believes me when I say this. But I am truly so very awkward. So sometimes people find it a pain to watch television shows on a laptop with me, because I’d make weird squealing noises and hide my face when I know something awkward is about to happen. Like so.

(Via wikia).

Trust me. You do not want to watch shows with a person who is constantly hiding her face behind the pillow during How I Met Your Mother, which in my opinion, is one of the most awkward shows in history thanks to Ted Mosby.

(Via MRWGIFS).

Omg I can’t. I also tend to fall asleep when I watch shows lying down. So I assume that most guys will find it irritating to constantly fill me in on what I just missed – either because I’m cowering behind the blanket, or because they’ve discovered that I’ve fallen asleep.

How annoying of me. And that’s also why I’m single I’m assuming.

#3 I have a blog.

Okay. I don’t mean to be very diva about it, but did you know that having a blog actually impedes guys from holding a normal conversation with you? Let me just show you some extracts of a 2 day conversation which quickly died because I refused to reply.

So this guy, he kept referencing my blog. He told me exactly what he had read, and what I had written in that post. And how he appreciated that I put this picture, with this caption, in this post. Like when I said I couldn’t check my POSB account balance because I was in the MRT?

Because you know, my post on MRT Selfies. He would insert blog references at every single opportunity. IT WAS INFURIATING. My blog is not a textbook to my heart and soul. It is the outlet where I unleash my sarcasm and bitchiness so that I can muster the self-control to not hadoken a ball of fiery rage onto people I actually see in real life.
Also, he felt the constant need to update me each time he had completed reading a new post on my blog. Dude. Do you feel the need to tell newspaper editors each time you complete reading an article in their paper? No right? Then why do you have this burning need to inform me unless you have something to contribute to it?

Seriously, I don’t need to be constantly updated on what you’re reading and what you think of my blog. I mean it’s nice to know what you guys think of my writing. Really, I appreciate all the emails I get, and I really try to answer each one of them. BUT DUDE. Showing my blog to your parents? SERIOUSLY?!

I guess the main issue I have is this –

#4 I’m very bitchy.

Yes I know. I’m very bitchy. I like to identify the difficult parts of my life and pinpoint the various stupid people who have made it that way. During the process, I like to give my uncensored opinion on what these people can do to improve my quality of living. And I like to give my opinion in the form of snarky comments which I take great pride in constructing.

(Via someecards).

One of my best ones for this year was…okay. Remember the obnoxious guy who helped me break my new year resolution #10? The guy who has an ego bigger than Jupiter and a brain smaller than a quail egg? Well, I was complaining to my friend about him, and was described as “poetic” for my efforts.

Yes, I know I could be more constructive by letting these insufferable twerps know what they are doing wrong, and how they could work on improving the lives of those around them. But you know, tact is not a character trait which comes easily to me. Especially when I have absolutely no interest in behaving civilly when all I want to do is stab the person in the eyes with my hypothetical adamantium claws.


Anyway. Bitchy – not a good girlfriend quality and therefore I am still single.

#5 I forget to reply people.

It is my understanding that when people send you texts or WhatsApps, it’s only polite that you reply. Sadly, I like to do this thing where construct the reply in my head, and then forget to send it to the person. So while I believe that I have already replied to so-and-so, so-and-so is just wondering why I didn’t bother to respond to his texts.
Which probably explains why I am single. Guys think I am ignoring them when actually, I just suffer from an overly active and overly vivid imagination. Like how I’m telling Mr Dinosaur over here.

#6 I am not always supportive.

So guys usually watch soccer and have a team that they support. I don’t. I find soccer just mildly amusing and I can get quite grumpy when I watch a game. To illustrate my point, here’s a picture of me and Smith at the Singapore vs Juventus game.
No, we don’t look very happy at all. Because you know, I’d much rather be watching something like Bones or Big Bang Theory.
But because I am a somewhat supportive girlfriend, I have always watched whatever sporting event that my previous boyfriends wanted to watch. I am really quite supportive ok. I even booked fucking Wimbledon tickets once (not that I minded, but, long story). Anyway, this is me and Wimbledon.
And me being the supportive girlfriend and taking good photos of cool people. Like Rafael Nadal.
REALLY QUITE GOOD RIGHT?! I was very proud of myself. Anyway, back to soccer. One of my ex-boyfriends used to watch soccer. He supported Liverpool. Did I support Liverpool? Of course not. Who did I support? Manchester United. Why? Because my friend said so. My friend was not my boyfriend. Anyway, friend is the best. He never fails to give me updates on my favourite team, aka Manchester United. Like yesterday.
So, I had to watch the World Cup. And this is how I decided on who to suport.
The ex, who supported Brazil, was not very pleased. But EH. I woke up at 3 am to watch the World Cup. Good enough okay.
But yes. You can see how this can be annoying this can be for boyfriends. Must be one of the reasons why they are all gone.

#7 I have selective OCD.

I really am. So this is the inside of my wardrobe.
I know! It’s extremely neat and you wish that your wardrobe was as well organised as mine. But now, just take a look at how messy I can be.
Apparently it is very hard for guys to keep track of what I’m OCD about. But a safe rule to follow is, if it’s in my wardrobe, my phone, or my laptop, I care a lot. Otherwise, I can’t be bothered.
Okay and now I am getting very sleepy and I would like to sleep. But actually these are just 7 of the maybe 20 million reasons explaiing why this Jac is single because you know, there’s also reasons like, I’m mad, irrational, and also because some people are just too daft for me. But this will do for now I guess.
And now I will leave you with this good song.
Okay sleep!
❤ Jac.

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Jac spends most of her free time wondering what she is doing with her life. Apart from finding a cure for cancer, achieving world peace, and saving the universe with her superpowers of course. Oh and shopping.

8 Differences Between Men And Women

Though we may be of the same species, there are just some things that differentiate the men from the ladies. The saying ‘Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’ does come into play, indicating how we think, speak and act differently to quite an extent. From soccer nights to shopping trips, men and women find comfort in different ways. We carry themselves differently, focusing on the traits that seeks to define who we are individually.

But genders aside, are we really that different? Is it a classic case of Superman vs. Wonder Woman? (Yes, they’re worlds apart. Literally.)

Well, these famous individuals seem to think so! What do you think?

1. “Women always worry about the things that Men forget; Men always worry about the things Women remember.” - Albert Einstein

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2. “A man’s face is his autobiography. A woman’s face is her work of fiction.” – Oscar Wilde

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3. “Men learn to love the woman they are attracted to. Women learn to become attracted to the man they fall in love with.” – Woody Allen

 

4. “The cocks may crow, but it’s the hen that lays the egg.” – Margaret Thatcher

If not men, how you think you think you get your protein?

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5. “Men are always looking for someone to boast to; women are always looking for a shoulder to put her head on.” – Henry Louis Mencken

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6.  “Men mourn for what they have lost; women for what they ain’t got” – Josh Billings

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7.  “A good cigar is as great a comfort to a man as a good cry is to a woman” – Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

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8. “There is a fundamental difference between men and women – women need romance, men need intrigue.” – Sherry Argov

 

Even though we may be somewhat different, we are definitely made for each other. Complementing each other’s strengths and weaknesses, supporting one another through thick and thin. It’s like that typical Singaporean saying that most of you must have heard, “AIYAH, same-same but different lah!”

I guess you can say that at the end of the day, opposites do attract after all.

 

– BChai

Totally Non-Cliché Valentine’s Day Ideas

Tomorrow is V-lehchey.. I mean Valentine’s Day. Be it if you are in a relationship, or chasing someone, or single-and-ready-to-mingle, I really hope you have thought of a master plan for Valentine’s Day because, you know, no biggie, It’s Tomorrow.

For those who haven’t, don’t fret. There’s still hope to save the date, and to potentially become The Best Valentine Ever. You can throw away the idea of reusing your friend’s tricks last year – Yes, I know you are thinking of it. Here are some Totally Non-Cliché Valentine’s Day Ideas:

1. VDay Breakfast

Forget about lunch. Forget even more about getting a booking through for dinner. Go for the traditional, simple but still romantic Valentine’s Day Breakfast. Enjoy the fresh air, the natural sunlight (Ladies, it’s super good for selfies, just sayin’), and the non-crowded dining area.

The early bird always catches the worm, right?

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2. Go Paktor.. Kampong-style!

WHAAAAT? You kidding me????????

I’m not. Expensive restaurants and comfortable ambience are totally cliché. You can do better. Bollywood Veggies is your sanctuary away from the Little Red Dot. A farm and a bistro, they offer a full farm tour and a cooking class and not to mention totally delicious kampong-style food. We are talking about banana curry, jackfruit lemak and acar fish.

The best part of it all? It’s $0 for entry. Guys, you hear me?

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3. Drive-in movie

MovieMob is a free outdoor drive-in movie concept in Singapore. Watch a movie in the comforts of your car or under the stars in a picnic setting – Wah! Sounds romantic right? I never knew Singapore had enough land for this.

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4. Double Dates

I call this Palentine’s Day, to celebrate the love between Pals. It’s always funner in a bigger group setting and there’s less of a pressure to impress your date. This doesn’t mean it’s any less romantic – just make sure your double date stays as a double date and not a triple, quadruple date. And of course, also make sure your partner is OK with this.

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5. Malaysia, truly asssiaaaaa

Why cannot? Malaysia is after all, just a stone’s throw away. The bus ride is cheap, or if you want to drive in, just make sure to avoid the jam! Enjoy a short getaway from the city life, and the affordable cafés with good ambience and food.

Goodbye Singapore, you were fun while it lasted.

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- Miss-I-Am-Thankful-To-Be-Skipping-VLehchey-Day-This-Year

The Top 5 Myths About Men On Dating Apps

So… this started off as a casual conversation with few female friends over a nice Saturday dinner. Everything was fine and dandy, the usual same ‘ol, same ‘ol conversations…

Until somebody said! Wah I got a match on Paktor! – Classic right? Everybody’s getting ‘Matches’ these days. Being the only guy (Btw I’m straight – just a disclaimer) at the table… they started bombarding me with all the questions about guys.

“Eh when guys use dating apps means they quite desperate right…?”
“Guys just use dating apps to hook-up right??”
“Wah… why guys only message hi- so unoriginal, no creativity, no effort!

And the list goessssssss on…. and on…

After about a half hour into it, I decided to do my fellow male ‘comrades’ on Paktor a favour:

To debunk the top 5 myths about men on dating apps.

#Myth 1 – Men on Dating Apps: WAH ALL SO Desperate

Eh hello, hello girls. That’s too much of a sweeping statement. That’s as good as saying – guys who go to a bar are desperate. *face palm*

Suffice to say, there’s a sizeable number of guys who aren’t desperate and just exploring their options on dating apps like Paktor.

Then again, some people would disagree. My rebuttal (for the guys) – if you think we are desperate why you still go out with us?? HUH??? HUH??? HUH??? Wouldn’t that make you just as desperate?

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#Myth 2– Men who show abs: MUST BE ONLY looking to hook-up

Whoever made this statement ought to be shot. Seriously. Just ‘cos a guy is topless on his profile picture and showing off his abs doesn’t mean he’s just looking to hook-up! It’s almost as good as saying – Oh that girl wants to hook-up just because she’s wearing a short skirt or showing some cleavage.

So why do guys post half-naked photos of themselves (top half ah… not bottom half – just clarifying)?

“WAH he got abs leh! Sexxxxxxy!”

“Look, look he got 8 packs!!!”

Sounds familiar? Most women (at least the ones I’ve met) are always RAVING about a guy’s abs.

Then again, it’s another story altogether if you’re this guy:

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Ryan Gosling who show abs: *SWIPE RIGHT*

 

#Myth 3 – Men who are HOT: Confirm player! *Swipe left*

You kidding me? It’s as if being hot is a crime.

Hot or not has nothing to do with being a player, or PLAYAAAA. Being hot just means you get a whole lot more of stares or getting into situations where you will see more people walking into a lamp post and falling into the drain. But that’s it!

Quit listening to your R&B and Hip Hop lyrics about hot guys hooking up all the time.

Please hor, don’t be hatin’ cos you can’t get the guy.

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#Myth 4 – Men with dogs in their profile photo: 

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For all you know, he may end up loving his dog more than you.

 

#Myth 5 – Men who only say Hi: Eee… means he’s not actually interested.

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Try as we might… sometimes inspiration doesn’t strike. That doesn’t mean we’re not that interested. It’s an instinctive response! If he’s not interested, then why would he swipe right?

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You don’t see him swiping right on something like this… right?

- Joel Chua (who wants to stand up for the Men on Dating Apps… or maybe just for himself)

Makeover For Men – A Hairy Affair

 

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In this new year of new beginnings, we start off by heading back to the basics of grooming while presenting to you the new trends for 2015.  In this article, we look at managing one of the often-neglected vital assets of a man – their hair. Not just the ones on our head.

Man your mane

Starting from the hair on top, here are 5 trendy styles to adopt in 2015:

1. Short Sides + Brushed Up Top

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This is a quick slimming solution for guys with round faces. An illusion of a longer face is created with the top lengthening the overall face shape and the sides cropped to reduce volume that rounds the face further.

 

 

 

2. Short Sides + Fringe

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This hairstyle is great for hide-and-seek.

It works fantastic as it instantly conceals high or wide foreheads! Besides, hairstyles with bangs bring youthfulness to a look. Who says men can’t hide their age too?

 

 

 

3. Keep it all short

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Bless the men with square-shaped faces.

An easy-to-maintain stylish haircut goes to none other than this hairstyle – Short sides and approximately 1-1.5” of hair on top; creating a slight volume to lengthen the face.

 

 

 

4. Tousled Medium Length Hair

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Looking for something longer?

This messy out-of-bed look is a good way to create volume for guys with fine or thin hair. The art of this look is to style it masculine yet sophisticated. Ditch the brushes and use your fingers to achieve the effect.

 

 

 

 

 

5. Slick + Side Part Business Casual

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Let’s agree that ladies will drool anytime to this suave look.

 

A classic style with a modern attitude works like a charm for a man serious at work. Best of all? It fits for every face shape. Matching with a modern suit and smart attire seals the deal.

 

 

 

Next, let’s go a little further down, to hair that frames the face.

If Eyebrows Could Talk

What will your brows say if they could talk?

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Just think, your eyebrows are one of the most expressive features so when you define them, you define your expressions. Then, if eyes are the windows to your soul, the brows would be the frames. Not convinced?

Missing something? There are more of them here for a good laugh. Once you are done laughing, this may be a good time to pick up your phone and make an appointment with your nearest brow therapist to get yours done. Yes men, we are not even giving you any guidelines here. So, please seek the help of professionals before you attempt any brow rectification.

Coming to the final point in this article, and the most important, and the often unsaid, we are moving onto peek-a-boo nose hair.

Pay attention to the details

This is likely the last thing you would want to hear from a lady.

A well-groomed gentleman takes note of fine details like his nose hair and keeps them in check daily. Invest in a nose trimmer if necessary. There is hardly anyone who may be brave enough to point out when it sticks out. That being said, we shall not go on any further about the unsightly strand of hair.

In the animal kingdom, a male lion needs its distinctive mane to show his magnificence and prowess. For a man living in this concrete jungle, he will definitely need his tresses to be well-maintained to show who’s the boss.

So, keep your hairs in check in 2015.

- Kyla Tan, Certified Image Consultant for GaiGai

 

5 Horrid Things Men Do On Dating Apps

I constantly get bombarded by weird profile pictures and chat messages of Paktor users by friends. No matter how much I stress about having a good profile photo, users and friends (*ERHEM*) tend to put up the dumbest things as profile photos and pray and hope (and dream) that someone as hot as Cecilia Cheung or Angela Baby will like them back so they can then ride vicariously into the sunset with them on horseback, make beautiful babies and live happily ever after….. ( I kid. I think in reality, it’ll be riding the SMRT train hoping that it won’t break down to Punggol before having kids at KK Hospital and praying for a happy-ever-after by wishing that their CPFs won’t get taken away from them unwillingly. HAAA!! )

So in an attempt to help my single friends and users try to achieve their dream girls, I have researched and went on many different dating apps to find out the worst things guys have done on dating apps. So men, as long as you avoid this, your chances of having your dream girls are higher. (Please correct me if I’m wrong, I would love to hear your opinions!)

  1. The Buttfie

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SAY WHATTT?? Selfie, wefie… now buttfie…. Never in my whole life would I ever thought a guy would do something like this.. and use it as his only ONLY ONLY profile photo. Which female is gonna like your bum? Nobody needs to see that grandpa undies or your (untoned) glutes! Maybe some guys will like your photo (nothing wrong with that) but totally defeats your purpose of finding a girl right?

Unfortunately, this is how i also envision your face to be…

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Buttfies are a NO NO.

 

  1. The Fake Horse

It’s no surprise that men do like their fast cars; Porsche, Ferraris, Aston Martins etc. But what’s up with men putting up pictures of cars that they do not own as their profile photos? When I googled the word ‘Ferrari’, the first few images that come up are photos that I have seen as user profile photos on dating apps. So if the girl actually likes you back, she’ll be wanting to sit in your Ferrari. But if she ends up sitting in your Proton Saga and doesn’t call you again.. I don’t blame her for her disappearance. She’s most probably cursing and telling everyone what a con artist you are.

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Don’t pretend to have something that you don’t.

 

  1. The Bad Pick Up Line

I thought I have heard the worst pick-up lines ever till I came across this on the Internet.

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WHAT DID YOU SAY????  

This one just deserves to be blocked and slapped.

I rest my case. I also do hope your ferrari crashes.

 

  1. The Chat Essays

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I’m sure some of you have read or come across this – Men who are so eager to share their entire life story, their every moment of yesterday, today and tomorrow and every second… Chats are short and sweet… not essay-like! I don’t need to know what you’re doing for the whole day or the next few days. And DON’T YOU DARE CALL ME GORGEOUS!!

 

  1. The Couple Photo

I always condemned men who cheat on their girlfriends or vice versa. And when I actually see profile photos of couples with a male name, I either dislike the profile or hit the ‘report inappropriate flag’. Are you seriously that ignorant? You’re proclaiming to the whole world that you are cheating!

 

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So men, if you’re wondering why you haven’t met the girl of your dreams even though you’ve constantly been swiping right…. Now you know why. Either delete that horrid profile photo or carry on praying for a Cecilia Cheung/Angela Bay.


XX The Paktor Queen

8 Types Of Women That Men Can’t Resist

Gentlemen, let’s face it.

There are just some types of women out there that we, as guys, cannot resist. Be it a physical, emotional, intellectual or even some subliminal form of attraction, the laws of attraction are definitely present. No doubt, it’s based on taste and preferences as each has his own idea of an ideal female partner. One man’s meat is another man’s poison.

So without further ado, here are 8 types of women that men can’t (and I mean CAN’T) resist. Take it with a pinch of salt, for there are types which incorporates feminine traits from one another.

  1. The Mysterious Kitten

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An aura of mystery surrounds her. There’s something about her that you just can’t place your finger on. She’s a sex kitten, a bombshell at that. Her trait of being very seductive and flirtatious adds on to the draw. She definitely knows how to look good, be it in an evening gown or an oversized shirt. She’s the one that many of us (me included!) have been caught staring at, before snapping out of it in some embarrassment.

You know you’ve seen one when it hits you – that’s for sure!

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She’s beaming with confidence and ready to take on the world ahead. She’s clear of her goals, knows what she wants in life and willing to make sacrifices to achieve that. An independent woman at times, she’s able to stand on her own two feet. She has the tendency for being aggressive in order to defend her ways. She’s strong like that, not taking sh*t from anyone whilst protecting her interests. Some may deem such an individual along the lines of being a ‘b*tch’. But then again, that’s what makes her the tigress. The female leader of the pack.

 

Cat fight, anyone?

  1. The Sociable Adventurer

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Cliff -jumping, rock-climbing, paintball, ultimate Frisbee or even a simple game of soccer. You name it, she’s done it. She’s that outgoing – always socializing and up for new experiences whether it’s indoors or outdoors. What makes her unique (and somewhat sexy..) is her ability to strike up a conversation with just about anyone. Be it your family, friends, or even the uncle at the mama shop, she’s able to carry her own weight. Always energetic and full of vigour – You gotta admit.. her personality is intoxicating!

  1. The Giver/Pleaser

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She’s a pleaser. Your happiness is her objective. She’s devoted to you more than a hooligan to his soccer club. You know that’s true when she goes the extra mile just to please you, driving out long distances to buy your favourite Char Kway Teow or picking up coffee from that specific coffee house. And it doesn’t stop there, for that ‘pleasing’ likely happens both in and out of the bedroom.

Now, who doesn’t want a woman like that?

  1. The Gaming/Sports Enthusiast

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Being sporty is in her nature. She’s into sports and games, with most of them being those that guys play. She’s not afraid to challenge them at it, nor break a sweat while doing so. At times, she may display a child-like persona that we (as guys) tend to behave like in such situations. Some find that cute, others even find it very sexy. That’s her draw, her ability to connect with the male species. And noticeably, it’s true as she tends to have more male than female friends.

Be careful fellas. Before you know it, she might just beat you at Fifa/GTA/Call of Duty.

  1. The Odd-Betty

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Eccentric, unconventional and unlikely to succumb to mainstream activities. She has her awkward moments and quirks that makes her stand out. She enjoys music and activities that many may not subscribe to, making her different but unique at the same time. But hey – being awkward is another form of sexiness too!

  1. The Delightful Diva

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Image is everything. How she’s seen to everyone else around her means too much to measure. She goes through the arduous task to make herself look beautiful and presentable at any occasion. At times, she has the potential to be a diva and/or display traits of being spoilt. But then again, to some of us, that very trait adds to her draw-factor. Sometimes graceful, other times a damsel-in-distress. She definitely knows how to work herself to her advantage.

  1. The Responsible Mother

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Trustworthy, dependable but also loving with a warm, motherly touch. Bringing her to family gatherings will never be nerve-wrecking. She’s like a giver/pleaser, but with an almost maternal-sort of touch to it. Pretty much a sweetheart; She’ll take care of your basic needs like cooking and cleaning. It’s like filling the shoes of the home-maker, knowing how to support her man as he brings the bread home. After all, behind every successful man, there’s a great woman.

The ideal woman for most men, what’s there not to love?

So, what’s your preference?

- Brendan Chai