New Age Dating Game Decoded Round 1: First Impressions

Love at first sight? Not so much. It’s all about making a great first impression.

Our first impression is made and etched within the first 7 seconds upon meeting a person and it sticks on forever. There is more than what meets the eye to create a positive impression. Well, quite literally.

Visual contributes to as much as 70% of all sensory information received and interpreted, but that alone is not sufficient. To project the ideal image of ourselves to others, we also have to actively engage our other senses. In our fast-paced lifestyles, it is especially crucial to get it right during the first meet up. If not, it may also end up as the last.

Here are 5 aspects you need to pay attention to when prepping for that 7 seconds that leads you to the doorway of the next date:

  1. Grooming



If a man takes care of himself, he is likely able to take good care of others.

Make this a priority and appeal to the visual senses to create a great first impression. Get started by compiling a top-to-toe grooming checklist, and then tick them off your chart. A little reminder to NEVER have a haircut just a day before or on the actual date! Just in case your tress gets messed up.

  1. Smell


Very often, some of us with unpleasant body scent are unable to detect it. If you are unsure, consult a close friend who can be honest with you or simply wear a perfume or cologne you love. Go easy on spraying, as it can get pretty overwhelming. The rule of thumb – don’t let your date smell you before they see you.

  1. Gesticulation and Expression3efac18485ce8943c70787b436f64983

Your body language can be a silent killer if you don’t attend to it. When communicating, our mind unconsciously picks up non-verbal signals to establish judgments. Create a positive impression by smiling & maintaining eye contact.

  1. Communication

ear_1895185cThe key to effective communication is to build a rapport. How do you go about doing so? Get the person to trust you! Interestingly, one of the best ways to win them over is simply to let them talk first. So, fight that impulse to chatter away about your life and listen!

  1. You-nique5889583185_42a7cea672

Be yourself! Don’t pretend to be someone you are not and be misunderstood. You may think that being as slick and perfect as possible will give the best first impressions, however, showing your vulnerabilities can actually be both endearing and empowering. Being imperfect is human and being human is attractive. Don’t be surprised when the other party opens up to you!

You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.

This article was contributed by Kyla Tan, Paktor’s master trainer and qualified Style Coach.