We Just Figured Out Why You’re Still Single

If you still haven’t found your special match, don’t worry! According to Feng Shui, there are ways you can easily increase our chances of finding romance by simply removing or adding certain items to your bedroom.

  1. Remove stuffed toys and other kiddy items 


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Although they somehow remind you of your good childhood memories, stuffed toys and other kiddy memorabilia should be left in the past (or in storage). You are now a grown adult, focus on serious matters such as love and career. Don’t allow your energy to be drawn to the past – focus on what’s ahead and who knows, your special someone might soon arrive.

2. Remove art or images that depict solitude

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Images that depict solitude unconsciously bring melancholic emotions and loneliness. Get rid of them because you need to open yourself to meeting new people and friends. If you can’t bear to part with them, try to match them with a pair!

3. Remove clutter or mess

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Any form of clutter or mess in your bedroom attracts negative and stressful energy. Hence, it translates to bad mornings and nights. Get rid of this to bring calmness into your room and attract more positive energy.

 

 4. Remove any item that carries water  

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Plant lovers we have bad news for you! Any item that carries water connotes energy that is trapped or stagnant. Remove such items in your bedroom to ensure the free flow of good vibrations. Still want plants? Go for potted ones instead of cut flowers.

5. Add more colors of pink, red, or brown

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These colors are associated with romance and happiness. Add more of these in your room to enhance the energy of love. If you’ve got a masculine bedroom, go for brown hues like these amazing bedrooms.

 

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6. Add bright lights

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Another enhancer of love is bright lighting. These bring about positive and happy energy. Romantic fairy lights are more for the ladies, while the guy can opt for cool standing lamps!

7. Add a pair of scented candles 


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Not only will these exude good smelling aroma in your bedroom, but also enhance the chances of love. Make sure your candles come in pairs to increase the possibility of finding that special someone.

8. Add an image of peony flowers

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These flowers are considered to be the number one flowers for romance in Chinese traditions. Why not try putting images of them in your room to increase your chances of finding love?

This article is written just for you by HipVan. For more home styling tips, head on over to www.hipvan.com. HipVan is your one-stop online shop for great furniture and home décor designs for you to beautify your home today!

 

Giving GaiGai a Chance!

So a while back I downloaded this app called Paktor and went on a disastrous blind date. You might have read about it here. Needless to say, my venture on Paktor put me off dating apps for quite a while. And also made me sort of lose hope in the future of humanity.

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But the great people at Paktor have developed launched a new offline dating agency! Called GaiGai, the agency organises a wide range of events for you to expand your social circle and have fun while doing so. So because I’m admired for both my extraordinary beauty and immense courage, they invited me to try it out..

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So I was given a range of events to choose from – from fine dining on a boat, to meet-ups at cafés. But I opted for a round of drinking games at The Papa Shop. My rationale was that alcohol would loosen everyone up, make the atmosphere a little less awkward and hopefully a bit more conducive to hold conversations.

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And I guess it kinda worked. The event was very well facilitated and I think that everyone had fun and I made quite a few friends that night. In case you guys feel like signing up for some GaiGai meetups, I thought I’d share some takeaways that I got from this event.

#1 Everyone wears black.

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Well, I don’t know if this was purely coincidental, or if people naturally steer towards black outfits. My theory is that everyone who attended this event was secretly an antisocial introvert mourning for the sudden loss of their stay-in Saturday. My friend’s theory is that black is more figure-flattering. Hah. I wished that worked on me.

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But seriously, everyone was in black. Except for me. I was colourfully dressed in pink and blue because I was marking the 2 week death anniversary of my fighting fish. My fighting fish was blue and pink. He led a very comfortable 5 day long life. Yes. I have issues with letting go. Possibly one of the reasons why I’m single.

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But yes, if you want to fit in with the hoi polloi, do remember to wear black.

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#2 Show your enthusiasm.

The great thing about GaiGai is the variety of events you can choose from. Though most of them are food-related (because, you know, it’s Singapore and we love our food) I also noticed other non-food activities such as laser tag and prawning in the June calendar of events.

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Regardless of which activity you sign up for, I think it’s important to be enthusiastic. If you’ve paid for an experience, you might as well make the most of it, no? Say you signed up for drinking games, it would make the most sense (economical sense in particular) for you to participate in all the games and drink your fill. No point holding back and let other people take your turn right? Besides, it’s kinda awkward for the people watching too.

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Or maybe it’s just me. I get awkward far too easily for my own good.

 

#3 Be friendly.

If I understand correctly, the point of GaiGai is meeting other singles and possibly matching with someone of the opposite gender whom you might want to spend more time with. So don’t leave straight after the event! Hang around and talk to everyone. It’s hard to get to know someone well in a short span of say, 2 hours. That said, you shouldn’t spend your time hiding in the corner gossiping with just one of your newly made friends.

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Sit at the table with other people. Hang out. Have fun. Your new friend of the same gender can wait.

 

#4 Prepare to stay back.

Well, I can’t speak for all the events, but the GaiGai event that I went for was really fun and the people were great. So what this means is that you’d want to hang out for a bit after the official activities are completed.

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Don’t be a wet blanket! Stay back and interact with your new friends. It’s to my knowledge that most people aren’t weird and strange.

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#5 Optimism helps.

I realise that not everyone has the best of luck when it comes to finding someone whom you like to spend time with. Your non-existent love life is fuelled by your pickiness, numerous character flaws, and your inexplicable knack of running into horrible guys.

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But you know, head up and just keep an open mind. I can’t say that I’m sure you’ll find someone someday, but I’m sure you can have fun while doing so.

 

Brought to you by: Jac aka @behindthebasics. 

Jac spends most of her free time wondering what she is doing with her life. Apart from finding a cure for cancer, achieving world peace, and saving the universe with her superpowers of course. Oh and shopping!
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6 Ways to Tell if a Guy Likes You

I know right? You’d think by now this should be on our fingertips. After all, men are hardly as wily or as confusing as women. So they say. I think it’s just a ploy to get us to let our guards down. Damn they’re good. But no more! Here’s the definitive guide to figuring out if that guy likes you. Unless he’s a Player. Damn.

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  1. He Touches You

Uh-huh. Let’s just get right to it. If a guy likes you, he’s already moved 6 steps ahead and is imagining you naked. Who am I kidding? That’s probably the next step. But this is not the Dark Ages and he can hardly drag you home by your hair so he has to settle for a hand on your arm, a nudge of your shoulder, you know…socially accepted norms.

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  1. He laughs

Who wouldn’t be in a good mood around someone he adores? You may be no Tina Fey but hey, suddenly everything you say is smart and amusing, probably because he’s listening to you for once. Law of the Universe: Men only listen to people they like, provided they’re not married.

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  1. He’s a Tease

Yep that thing you secretly love, that allows you to slap his arm because you want to touch him too. Feel free to tease him right back. What’s the difference between someone being mean to you because he has a chip on his shoulder and someone teasing you because he likes you? The Smile.

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  1. He’s Fussing Over his Appearance

When it comes to grooming, men have no standards (by our standards). If his shirt is food stain-free and he is recently showered, that is probably good enough for him. If you find a man asking for fashion advice and changing his look, you can bet your money that he’s in love. A quick scan of the horizon should reveal the object of his desire.

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  1. He Can’t Stop Looking at You

You catch him staring at you all day long. Sometimes he turns away, embarrassed; other times he smiles and holds your gaze. You’re starting to feel stalked. Calm down, the man’s in love with you.

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  1. He Ditches his Pack

While there are many lone wolves out there, many men also move in packs like women. But a guy in love will be eager to ditch his pals for his True Love since any opportunity to spend time with you improves his chances of finding love.

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~ Li Ching (Who is as Confusing as They Come)

Study Says- Get Your Date’s Attention: Focus On Eyes & Smile

A study based on the survey of 1,000 men shows that the first thing that draws the attention of a men of a woman is her eyes. This is probably contrary to what you may think – that a man is more interested in the feature that’s further down. But his gaze does wander down south next – we’re talking about the woman’s megawatt smile. This is followed by a glance at her breasts.

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The next on the list are hair, overall weight, and then legs. This is followed by the dress sense, and then the skin.

However, the study shows that tall girls have their height noticed first, before the man focuses on her eyes.

Predictably, though, his gaze does wander south next, taking in the lucky lady’s dazzling smile before an appreciative glance at her breasts. Only then is our Romeo likely to notice her well-coiffed hair and consider her overall weight before eyeing up her legs.

For women, the same features – eyes and smile – catch their attention too. The third and fourth on the list are height and hair. Next: dress sense, weight, skin, face shape, bottom and nose, which is probably good news for most men, because it means you can invest in a good wardrobe to quickly improve your affinity with women.

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7 Scientifically-Proven Physical Attributes That Attract Men. You Don’t Need To Be Born With Them

Whether you have a beau you want to impress or want to up your chances at the dating scene, you’d want to read these scientists-backed tips!

  1. Rule #1: Wear makeupAttributes1

A man may say he prefers “natural, no makeup”, but like Calvin Klein once said: “The best thing is to look natural, but it takes makeup to look natural.”

An experiment by social psychologist Nicolas Geuguen had two young women sit in a bar in France. In one scenario, they have makeup on, and in another, they only cleansed and moisturised their skin. At the bar, they waited for men to approach them for a chat and then declined them, giving the excuse that their friends were joining them soon.

This experiment was repeated for 60 one-hour periods in two different bars. The results? When the women weren’t wearing makeup, the first man approached them after an average of 23 minutes, and then the rate of being hit on was 1.5 times per hour.

With makeup on, the first man tried to chat up with them after 17 minutes, and the rate of being hit on increased to two times per hour.

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In another study, researchers seek to find out which components of makeup are most attractive to men. It found that eye makeup has the most impact, followed by foundation.

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Scientists at Manchester University used an eye movement tracking software and found that in the first ten seconds after being introduced to a woman, men tend to spend more than five seconds looking at her lips, especially if she was wearing red. This is regardless of the shape of her lips.

  1. Choose brown for hair dyeAttributes4

A poll on 2000 men by social network site Badoo found that men prefer brunettes. This survey studies the features that men find most attractive in women, and one third of the respondents said they find brown hair most attractive, while 28.6% said they liked black – this means that almost 60% of men indicated a preference for dark-haired women. Just FYI, 29.5% preferred blondes while 8.8% liked redheads.

  1. Avoid the half-up hairstyleAttributes5

You probably already knew that hair is an important part when it comes to leaving a great impression on your overall appearance. According to a recent study by Pantene, 87% of men said that it is.

In an interview with Steve Ward, a professional matchmaker and host of VH1′s Tough Love, with Daily Makeover, he said that a half-up hairstyle isn’t popular with men, a loose ponytail can look like you’re not bothered with your hair, whereas a tight, slicked-back ponytail can look intimidating.

As for hair that men love: wild curls that allows you to show off your neck and collarbone. Loose waves are another casual but glamorous look that Steve Ward approves.

  1. Wear enhanced colour lensesAttributes6

A study by University of Toronto looked into the relationships between facial measurements and attractiveness. In this study, researchers found that men found women with thick, dark limbal rings in their eyes more attractive. These are dark rings around the iris of the eyes. These rings usually fade when you get older or if you’re ill, so it offers an indicator of youth, which is probably why men are primally attracted to women with prominent limbal rings. There are cosmetics contact lenses in the market that help enhance the limbal rings, so even if yours aren’t obvious, you can cheat with them  ;-)

  1. Don’t wear the same perfume as his exAttributes7

According to a poll by Glamour magazine, which also worked with scent expert, Dr. Alan Hirch, every men in the survey could recall the perfumes that his ex-girlfriends had worn. When asked if it’ll be a deal-breaker for them if their current date wears something similar, they said that they’d rather she not wear it.

However, if you don’t know what are his exes’ signature scents, try wearing something men would be attracted to instead. Fresh out-of-shower perfumes (such as Dolce&Gabbana’s Light Blue), spicy scents (like Tom Ford’s Black Orchid) and smells of fresh orange (e.g. Hermès’ Eau d’Orange Verte) are huge turn-ons.

On the other hand, men in the panel disliked perfumes that smell of food. Chocolate is the biggest turn-off. The only exception, according to the survey, is vanilla. Strong florals are also not a favourite amongst the men.

 

Guest Post by Daily Vanity.

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Dating: So Bad and Yet So Good

If you have been dating, and dating, and dating(!!) and somehow still haven’t found Mr/Miss About Right (oh yeah, gone are the days when we must have Exactly Right), you must be feeling pretty sick of it. Why do we persist? Is it the sinking feeling in your stomach that says you may not be wired for Complete and Utter Independence? Is it for lack of something better to do with your time (who are you and why haven’t you been ensnared by the long arms of the Internet)?

Indulge me here but I think it is our strong survival instinct, that intrinsic knowledge that tells us dating is somehow good for us. As unbelievably bad as it can seem, way too often, it somehow betters us, and moulds us into an upgraded Version 2.0.

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Rejection Strengthens your Attitude towards Failure

The worst part of dating is probably rejection and it hits you right at your first step. Moments after you work up your courage to say “Hi” to that sweetie pie in your office, you discover she isn’t that sweet after all. Your friend introduces you to her friend, whom she swears is the “nicest guy in the world” – Yep, not so nice. How many times can you walk into that wall and not crumble into a miserable mess?

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Amazingly, you find yourself doing it over and over again. Gradually you realise that walking into a wall is not such a big deal. You learn to deal with it – just get up and find another way, a concept no different from facing difficulties at work, obstacles in life, all of which are inevitable but mostly just make us stronger.

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Dating teaches you that Anything is Possible

You get all dressed up over and over again and nothing happens. Then one day, you’re hanging out with your best buds wearing your ratty old tee and glasses, and bang, you meet someone’s acquaintance and suddenly you’re dating. To say that love is a freaky random thing is putting it mildly. Should this make you despair? No! Let this be a reminder of the infinite possibilities in this world. The fact is anything Can Happen if you go out there and embrace life for all its quirky unpredictability. Believe that good things happen and they will. Make sure you’re ready.

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Experience makes you Wiser

7 boyfriends later, sure, you might be a little bitter and somewhat confused about how it all works but there is no denying what doesn’t work. Obsessive compulsive workaholic doesn’t work. Sporty exercise freak doesn’t work. Romantic ultra-possessive doesn’t work. See what experience can do for you? The next time Mr Loves-Himself-More-than-Life asks for your number, you can laugh in his face and walk away. Efficiency is now your middle name. You can go through double the number of men you used to in half the time.

Just try not to leave a bloodbath in your wake.

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~ Li Ching (Who Yearns to be Stronger, Wiser and Ready for Anything)

 

3 Fun Things to Do with your Date after Work!

There has been so much talk about Singaporeans not being happy. I say it’s because they’re not having enough FUN. What’s with all this work, work, work, morning, day and night? Like that how to go and Paktor? How to get married and make babies?

Cannot lah. So we uncovered the 3 most fun things in Singapore you can do with your Hot Date after work (what to do, still must work lah, otherwise no money to have fun lor)!

1) Night Cycling For Sporty Fun People

After being pent up all day in the office, what better way to let off some steam than with a vigorous bout of night cycling.

Alternatively you could indulge in some leisurely and romantic side-by-side cycling (Stunt-lovers can even try to hold hands but attempt this at your own risk!)

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Not only is it cooler to cycle at night, it will be less crowded both on the roads and in parks. Excellent coastal locations include Punggol Waterway, East Coast Park and Changi Boardwalk where you can also stop for a bite of supper after you’re done.

Those looking for some city lights to admire can cycle from Marina Barrage to Gardens by the Bay for a fabulous view of the Singapore skyline. Whether you’re under the stars or the sparkling city lights, be sure to take a moment to gaze into each other’s eyes!

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2) Locked Rooms For Brainiacs

Locked rooms are quickly gaining popularity in Singapore with more companies joining the trend and creating rooms with greater diversity and excitement for players. They usually feature rooms where you have to solve puzzles or uncover clues in order to progress to the next stage and eventually escape. Challenges can range from physical ones such as retrieving a key from a hard-to-reach place in a room to mental ones like brainteasers and breaking codes. Newer entrants such as Trapped Escape Room Singapore are also hosting rooms with themes such as Friday the 13th and World War 3.

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If your brains are dying for some intellectual challenges after the stifling boredom of mind-numbing work all day, this is a great activity to check out with your date. Who knows, you may even get to rescue the damsel in distress (or be rescued)!

Fun After Work
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You can Check Out:

Trapped Escape Room Singapore www.trapped.sg

Xcape Singapore www.xcape.sg

Breakout Escape Game www.breakout.com.sg

The Escape Artist www.theescapeartist.org

Lockdown.SG www.lockdown.sg

Think Your Way Out www.tywogames.com

 

3) Darts For Sharpshooters

Who says there’s nothing to do in Singapore? If you’ve always thought you were a sharpshooter, here’s your chance to prove yourself. There are several dart bars and joints in Singapore that open till late or never close so you can literally shoot to your heart’s content at any time. Aim for your date to have some fun and hopefully Cupid’s shooting will be just as sharp as yours!

Fun After Work
Darts Culture (www.meetup.com)

 

You can Check Out:

Darts Culture www.facebook.com/Dartsculture

I Darts Singapore www.idarts.com.sg

Forest Darts Café & Pub www.facebook.com/Forest45

 

Fun After Work
Forest Darts Cafe (www.watsinside.com)

 

 

~ Li Ching (Who Must Have Fun)

How to get on THAT Popular list on Paktor

Time flies.

It seemed like only yesterday that Paktor was launched and now it’s been a whole year (and more!) Many of you have come and gone, swiped and chatted, matched and dated.

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One of our more recently launched features was the Most Popular user list and many of you have been asking how you can get on them.

We decided to do a bit of homework for you guys and hunt down these popular hunks and babes to find out their secret sauce.

On top of that, we’ll throw in some advice so that YOU can rise to the top of the dating game as well.

Sounds like a good deal? Then read on my friend, read on.

Disclaimer: Names and real photos have been withheld to protect our hot users who are already swamped...But if you’re really curious, I suggest you download Paktor and start swiping.
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Top Female Users

  1. Miss Model-Aspirant

You can’t miss this one. Her photos look like glossy portfolio prints. Her flawless make-up can only be matched by her highlighted tresses and runway outfit. She looks so perfect you wouldn’t dare to swipe right on her photo without going for a professional makeover first.

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Likes / Dislikes:

“I like visiting restaurants to try food I haven’t tried before…Cafes are nice too…We can chat and get to know each other better…I don’t really like alfresco dining, it’s too hot in Singapore! *laughs*

“No, I’m not really sporty…I’m more girly…I like shopping…Walking is also exercise right? Walking for a few hours can be very tiring!”

“No lah, I don’t take 2 hours to get ready to go out! Unless it’s a very special occasion.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Sometimes guys put very nice photos on the app but don’t bother to dress nicely when they show up for the date. It’s so weird! One guy showed up in slippers, and not the nice kind. He said it was okay for a café.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“You look like a model! *laughs*

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

No one turns into one of these babes overnight. I know. I tried. Nearly succumbed to a mascara stick stabbing. Instead, I suggest you work harder, make more money and hire a personal dresser.

And a professional photographer.

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  1. Miss Natural Girl-Next-Door

She’s a direct contrast to Miss Model-Wannabe with little or no make-up and clearly enjoys being dressed in comfortable but still presentable attire. Her photos are not glamour shots and may in fact include actual activities where she sweats or gets dirty.

Top Personalities
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Likes / Dislikes:

“I don’t mind trying different dates such as roller-blading at East Coast Park. I tried that once. It was quite fun although I probably fell more than I bladed! *laughs* I like a guy to be original and creative. But I like movies so although that’s a typical Singaporean date, I don’t mind.”

“I do like hawker food but maybe not for a first date. Too casual maybe? A date should be special, at least a little.”

“I like funny guys who make me laugh. Not that a guy shouldn’t be serious when it’s appropriate.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“It’s hard to tell anything about a person from just photos and a short description. You really don’t know what to expect. I can only look for someone who looks nice and friendly and pray I don’t meet a psycho.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

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What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Unfortunately, we are not all natural born beauties who can strut around without makeup. But guys do like girls with a bit of interest and character so it pays to explore new activities and keep an open mind. Don’t forget to take some photos while you’re at it too!

Alternatively, you can work harder, make more money and go to Korea to enhance your natural beauty.

 

  1. Miss Cutie-Pie

You’ll recognise her by her cutesy poses with at least one finger near her face. She looks like a Japanese doll and may be hugging a Hello Kitty soft toy. She’s so adorable you want to bring her home to show your mum but you wonder when she’ll grow up.

Top Personalities
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Likes / Dislikes:

“I love soft toys! *laughs* I don’t know why but my friends love to buy me soft toys. That’s why I have so many. Of course I don’t buy all of them myself!”

“Selfies are great! I don’t have to wait for someone to take a photo for me. When I’m bored or waiting, I can take some for fun. My friends and I enjoy posting our selfies; it tells them what I’m doing at the moment too.”

“We don’t use the phone to talk. It‘s much faster to message but it can be distracting. Sometime I get hundreds of messages after I don’t check for a while. When I really need to work, I have to mute my messages.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Erm…okay lah, I think online dating’s fun. I usually get bored with the guy after chatting for a while. I don’t meet many of the guys. But it’s fun to swipe!”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“*laughs* Singaporeans don’t use pick-up lines lah! I can’t think of any!”

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Practice makes perfect. Try out your cutesy hand poses with your good friend, the mirror or a real friend who won’t laugh in your face. If it still doesn’t work out, hide behind a giant Hello Kitty soft toy and work its cutesy face to your advantage.

 http://www.kittyhell.com/
http://www.kittyhell.com/

 

 

Top Male Users

  1. Mr Boy-Next-Door

This is by far the most common profile type on Paktor. There are a surprisingly large number of pleasant, earnest Singaporean guys who make the effort to post an informative range of photos that really gives you a glimpse into their lives and make you want to swipe right.

Top Personalities
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Likes / Dislikes:

“I like friendly, laidback girls who are open to different things. Not too fussy type.”

“*laughs* Yah, I do like girls with long hair, pretty mah. But can have, can don’t have lah.”

“Coffee is very important! Cannot get through my day without it! *Laughs*

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“I don’t like people thinking that online dating is only for desperate people. Actually there’re a lot of nice people you can meet online. Most people are just too busy to meet anyone so online dating is really useful. You can chat whenever you’re free so it’s very convenient. You may not end up dating them but can still be friends.”

Best Pick-Up Line Lines Heard:

“Hi”

“Hey. Hi”

“Hi Hi”

 

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Because girls don’t need no pick up line game.

 

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Take an obsessive number of photos of you doing just about everything. Borrow a cute dog to pose with if possible. Exclude anything that occurs in a bathroom.

Pick a good female friend with excellent taste to help you select the best for your Paktor profile.

 

  1. Mr Sportsman 

I don’t think this guy even requires a description. Bare torso – Check! Six-pack – Check! Tank top – Check!

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Likes / Dislikes:

“I like to work out…it doesn’t mean my girlfriend has to be the same. But it would be nice to work out together.”

“Appearances are important of course. So is health. Keeping fit lets me do the other things I want…like eat *laughs*…I like to eat.”

“I like movies, not just action ones…comedies are good.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Girls who don’t reply! *Laughs* At least can be polite mah…”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“I heard you’re looking for me…I’m Mr Right. *laughs*

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Only aspire to be this guy if you can endure a wait of at least 6 months for a girlfriend. Meanwhile, expect to be eating very little and spending a lot of time and money in the gym. Your trainer will become your new best friend (it’s the least he can do since you’re paying for his new car).

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  1. Mr Frequent Flyer

The guy who seems to plonk himself in the most exotic locations around the world. You can’t help but recognise the different iconic backdrops and secretly wish that he brings you along with him.

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Likes / Dislikes:

“Travelling really broadens your mind and changes the way you look at the world around you and your own life. I would love to meet someone who shares the same enthusiasm for experiencing different cultures.”

“Photos help me to remember places I’ve visited. The world is so big, if I don’t return to the same place, at least I have these photos to remember them by.”

Pet Peeve of Online Dating:

“Nothing. Online dating is perfect for our world today. It allows you to reach out to anyone. No one has to be restricted by geographical divides.”

Best Pick-Up Line Heard:

“Sorry, I don’t use pick-up lines. They’re quite hard to pull off, aren’t they?”

What the Rest of Us can Learn Here:

Find a new job that pays you to travel a lot for your work, or learn some advance photoshop module.

You could even travel to Jurassic park ;)

 

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~ Li Ching (Who Now Feels Like Swiping Right)

Speed Dating: The Perspective of a Thirty-Year Old Singaporean Single Dude

**This blog entry was submitted and written by a satisfied GaiGai attendee who wishes to remain anonymous**

 

Speed Dating: The Perspective of a Thirty-Year Single Dude

First let me begin by saying… I’m still single, but I’m pretty much on my way (I hope) to getting hitched. And this is pretty much my reflection (which I believe happens to a lot of us) of how a small step (or a few clicks can change your life). And by that I don’t mean a mail-ordered bride or porn… I mean speed dating… Yes it sounds lame… but you’d be surprised at the people you’d meet. They actually all have 1 nose, 2 eyes and don’t look like Shrek nor smell like your next-door neighbour who hasn’t found out an invention called the shower.

In fact, I’ve actually gone a couple of dates with someone I met at a speed-dating event just a couple of weeks ago (we’re not together yet. But we’ll see…).

Anyway, I digress…. So if you have about 5 minutes to spare…. Look through what I have to say and judge for yourself! All I have to say is: Speed Dating Changed My Life !

 

The Chance Encounter

So it was one of those days… As I stared blankly into my desktop and work, crunching numbers, preparing my next business presentation.

Grzzz… Grzzz…

My Whatsapp just went off! Is someone going to be asking me out for dinner? I peered at my phone with excitement, and guess what I saw – “Son, coming home for dinner?” As much as I loved my mum, this really wasn’t what I was hoping for.

 

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Yes. I’m probably one of those people you’d wonder if I were asexual. I’m better friends with my excel spreadsheets, PowerPoint presentations and proposals that I am with any living breathing female, although I’d recently named my new computer “Alice”.   I’m thirty, relatively established in my career, VERY available but also EVEN MORE SINGLE.

Why? I just never got out very much. College was by far the last chance I had at meeting someone, but I blew it, because a good degree would get me further in life than any partner would – so says society.

The next thing that happened was less than what I hoped for (at least at first)…

Grzzz… Grzz…

This time I said to myself, I’m going to ignore anyone who isn’t asking me out. So I stole a glance at my phone. A familiar looking notification in a heart shape (Paktor’s notification) appeared.

OMG DID I GET A MATCH? – Much to my dismay, it wasn’t a match but a notification about a speed dating event that was coming up at Hort Park. GREAT! I thought to myself, even the app is telling me I’m a loser… (#$&#$^!)*!

 

The Epiphany

Fast forward 2 hours, it was 8pm. Time to go home. As I took a cab home, I instinctively took out my phone again. Let’s see if anyone liked me… … nope no luck at all. I had a number of matches but for someone like me… it never went beyond the small talk and the chats… mainly because I was a wuss who didn’t dare ask anyone of them out.

Then it struck me! What if I didn’t even have to ask them out? Isn’t that the whole point about speed dating? You just meet people! Without having to ask them out in the first place! IDEA RIGHT??? So I fast hand fast leg, signed up, paid and got the details from GaiGai. I shan’t go into the boring details of the confirmation process because I pretty much forgot all the details except the fact that I was going to meet 12 DIFFERENT GIRLS!!!! WOOOHOOOOO !!

 

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The Moment of Truth

3 days later, I was there, in my smartest looking suit– specially tailored when I was invited to a snazzy F1 suite last year as part of a client event. This was the second time I had it on, I was dressed to kill (or so I thought) but at the same time I was 20 minutes early, pacing up and down the toilet and breaking into perspiration because Singapore is just too damn humid and no one wears a friggin’ suit and paces up and down the toilet. – I was right! I was dressed to kill, to kill myself that is !

So then people starting entering Vineyard at Hortpark, as I watched, I didn’t want to be caught in an awkward conversation with the hosts of the speed dating session nor with the other dudes or ladies. I was in the zone, psyching myself up.

Without realizing it, it was 10 minutes past the time we were supposed to all be seated. I finally stepped in, pretending to be nonchalant. Upon entering, I was greeted by the host, Charlene, she smiled a lot, said a few things which I did not remember nor hear, the only thing I saw was the empty seat I was led to.

So I jumped on the chair and sat… looked ahead in front of me and WOW! I was shocked, she was gorgeous, and at this point I was thinking to myself… WAH I STRIKE 4D man! Not being able to believe my luck, I scanned the room quickly to look at the rest of the 11 ladies, I must say that I started to wonder why they were there, and then I looked at the guys – and suddenly all my preconceived notions about speed dating as a ‘loser’ activity disappeared into thin air.

Everybody in the room was regular, if not, good-looking people!

Back to reality! The session was starting. Charlene, the smiley host kicked off the session by laying out the rules of the night.

  • 7 minutes for each interaction with the person sitting in front of you.
  • Guy moves to his left – the cycle continues till you’ve met all 12 individuals
  • And the end of the session – you can write down the top 3 names of the people you would most like to keep in contact with and if they got your names down as well. GaiGai would share your contacts with each other.

All of this accompanied by good food, drinks and a bowl of cue cards at the table if you run out of things to say (which will happen, trust me).

And so it begins.

Obviously I had some lines ready, but nonetheless, everything went out the window the moment the actual interaction started. The first lady, Marilyn (not her real name), was a doctor, pretty, but according to her, just too busy to meet anyone. I was pretty nervous at first and by pretty nervous, I meant I was a train wreck. I didn’t really know what to say or if a joke would be good to open up the conversation.

“Hi… I’m Eng Loon (that is not my real name)… I really wanted to start this off with a joke but I was afraid you wouldn’t think its funny”

She laughed! Lol! Not because she thought I was really cracking a joke but she thought it was ‘cute’ that I was being so honest and at the ridiculousness of wanting to introduce myself with a joke. Nonetheless her laughter really put me at eased – that really put things on track, so we continued our little chit-chat for the next couple of minutes. Somehow right when the bell went off for us to move seats, we were talking about the morgue – but that didn’t really matter, I had fun and I think so did she.

It was time for me to meet the rest.

Things went a lot smoother for the next 11 ladies, I was less nervous and I think so were they. Every encounter was different, but yet refreshing and fun! Of course, there would occasionally be the 2 second pauses but heck! It was the first time we’ve even met, 2 seconds is definitely excusable. So this went on through the night, and as each interaction went by, it become almost easier to open the conversation and I was really enjoying it.

But alas, all good things must come to an end. Before I knew it – it was the end of the night, there were quite a few nice ladies I had wanted to shortlist but you could only choose three. I guess that works, since it forces you to really think through your choices. Had they given me unlimited choices, I might have just listed everyone down (or at least 6 to 7 names).

So I listed the names of three ladies, submitted my form and left. But not without asking Marilyn for her number, since she was my top choice anyway. Surprisingly she gave me her number! In that instance I felt UNSTOPPABLE!

 

The Happy Disappointment

2 days later, I received a call from Charlene.

Charlene: “Hey you got a match!” (she sounded more excited than me)

Me: “Who? Marilyn isit???”

Charlene: “Why? You like her ah?”

Me: “No la (trying to pretend)… just say la… who?”

Charlene: “It isn’t Marilyn, but Cynthia.”

 

Well I was a bit disappointed that Marilyn didn’t reciprocate, but considering that Cynthia was indeed in my top three choices, I was actually REALLY EXCITED. (side note: thank god I didn’t message Marilyn in the two days).

 

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Charlene gave me Cynthia’s number that led to texting, and a few dates actually!

All these happened just a couple of weeks ago, the couple of dates I’ve been on with Cynthia, were actually, believe it or not, the first dates I’ve had in 3 years. While it’s nothing too serious yet, and we’re pretty much still in the getting to know each other phase, BUT, I have to say, this wouldn’t have been possible if I hadn’t discarded my stereotypes around speed dating and taken a leap of faith.

So… for the guys reading this… ARE YOU READY???

 

This post was originally published on Paktor’s blog.

 

About GaiGai

GaiGai is Paktor’s new business arm that provides bespoke dating services and holds singles events regularly. GaiGai has been featured in numerous publications to date and has received positive feedback by many participants.

 

 

 

4 Ways to Make Your Co-Worker Fall in Love with You

I am psychic. No, really, I am. I can tell just by looking at you that you…spend a lot of time in the office. See? I told you. Oh wait…I’m getting something else…a sense of…Desperation. Ah…you’re desperate for love. If you are anything like the Average worker who spends 26 hours a day working, you know the only way for you to get any loving is from one of your co-workers. But how does one get a colleague to fall in love in the midst of the typical workday schedule?

Fall in love at work
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  1. Hang around. A lot. Then disappear.

Studies have shown that the more positive interactions you have with someone, the more they like you. So if the Love of Your Life (LOYL) heads to the pantry for a coffee, go get some tea. If he needs to photocopy a stack of documents, so do you. He’s waiting at reception for a delivery? What a coincidence! But do not follow him to the toilet. That’s just creepy.

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When you start to develop a nice pally connection, it’s time to make the occasional disappearance. Nothing makes the heart grow fonder as a little absence. The right tug and release will ensure that this Kite of Love continues to fly high.

 

  1. Let Them do Nice Things for You.

Being in love makes you want to do nice things: it makes you feel good about yourself and you also become extra attached to the recipient of your actions. On the other hand, being the recipient can be tricky. You could be appreciative and pleased but just as easily overwhelmed if your feelings towards that person are still unclear.

So resist the urge to bombard them. Instead, ask for easy favours. If you know he always brings a coffee back after lunch, ask if he could get an extra for you. He’s heading over to HR? Ask him to pass along a document. In return, always smile, be super grateful and remember that no one gets sick of knowing what a nice, helpful person they are.

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  1. The Path to Love Lies Within the Eyes.

Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin discovered that couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75% of the time when talking and are slower to look away when someone else intrudes. In contrast, people only look at each other 30-60% of the time in normal conversation.

So if you want to trick his brain into thinking that he’s in love, gaze soulfully into the eyes of the LOYL every opportunity you get. Take an extra second before you tear away your eyes even if your boss is yelling at you from his door. Unless it’s Bonus Month.

Fall in love at work
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  1. Practise Dilating your Pupils.

The ones in your eyes, that is. Do not attack your students if you are a teacher. Do not attack students even if you are not a teacher. According to pupillometrics (Yes, this is a real word. This is an educational website and that was your New Word of the Day.), the scientific study of pupils, people are wired to respond positively to enlarged pupils.

If you are attracted to someone, your pupils will already tend to enlarge but you can help by creating dim lighting. When the lights are out for a PowerPoint presentation, be sure you’re seated next to the LOYL and lean in for a whispered conversation.

Or just wear circle lenses like everyone else.

Fall in love at work
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~ Li Ching (Who Stares Soulfully into her Phone)